Would boyfriend feel like they got ‘no face’ with girlfriend who earns much more than him?
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I’m earning almost 5x of what he’s earning now. One of the reasons behind this is because he’s earning in IDR, while I’m earning SGD, tho we both share similar lifestyle and I am very thrift, I’m afraid that the income gap might be a factor that leads to the failure of this relationship.
He struggled to find a job in sg as an Indonesian and got no intention to work in sg in the near future , while I’m not sure if I am willing to give up my (comparably) high pay job to relocate to Indonesia.
Does it matter?
- My wife earns quite a bit more than I do. I have an awesome, capable wife. Any guy that feels insecure that their partner earns more (and vice-versa) needs to learn to put their pride aside and just be happy for them lol
- To me this appears the opposite: Seems like you do mind that he is earning less than you. For a woman it’s nothing wrong with thinking this way (don’t feel guilty, it’s hypergamy and it’s natural to think this way) and it’s a serious consideration if you want to see anything long-term with a male partner. Dark and contrarian opinion: change boyfriend, date someone who earns more than you or is better than you in areas that matter to you.
- Sounds more like this is a ‘you’ problem and what’s more thrifty than relocating and retiring in Indonesia. Better you seek out someone that earns similar or a higher-paid man and don’t waste his time.
- Just like some guys don’t mind their gf taller than them and some do. How would we know what your bf is thinking? Learn to be a better partner. Have an honest and open conversation with him about your thoughts instead of assuming this and that.
- I don’t think salary issue is bigger than long distance relationship. Long distances relationship always has a limit. Maybe yours already hit the limit…..