A man recently posted on Facebook about the experience he had with his wife. She initiated for both of them to be in an open relationship where both of them could see other people. The man stated that he was not happy with the arrangement and she backed down when the husband threatened to stop giving her money.
Here is the full story.
Rant post here: Having been married with my wife for more than 7 years, had two kids, our precovid years prior were more or less happy and satisfactory although not entirely smooth sailing. Due to covid and issues at her workplace, my wife quit her job and she starts to have doubts in the marriage. Minus off all the details and complicated stuffs, we decided to go open relationship to maybe bring some sparks and life to our own lives and marriage as well.
The bottom line is even if we have puppy love with outside lovers, the spouse and family comes first. She initiated this arrangement with video chat with others first, then into irl meet ups. Of course I wasn’t initially happy with this arrangement but she wasn’t feeling happy no matter what and I thought by doing this she would be happy. How I’ve erred. The current bf she’s with initially I’ve met with him as well and I was OK with how she described him as a person with a sense of justice and positivity. I’ve should have known a person who’s willing to sleep with others wife even if she’s in an open relationship wouldn’t have these traits.
Before long, he started to ask her to divorce me, even though he doesn’t like kids, he’s willing to take care. He even mentioned to her he’s willing to sell of his assets to take care of them. It was also after that my wife found out he’s inheriting tens of millions from his deceased stepfather.During the whole process my wife’s hinted that she had fallen in love with him, and it was never about the money. Then came the most selfish and heartbreaking moment I’ve experienced in my life. On the day of my birthday, she told me she had wanted to arrange for some nice starvation event for us but since I’ve arranged already she never went through(she never even mentioned it before aNyway till that day).
Then she told me she wanted to divorce amicably…. I was devastated, who in the right mind would say such things on a person’s birthday. After we talked it out, she says she will head to the bf side to talk things out and try to break it off. In the end, she only went back to our room late in the morning…. With love bites all over her body that she purposefully asked her bf to plant… And suddenly the entire marriage there wasn’t anything I did right and all the things she did was not wrongIn the end, I told her if she want to divorce, she can pack her bags and leave the house immediately. I will also cease all the money that I give her and pays for her. Yup, during this whole time she was also using the money I gave her while unemployed to go out with her bf. After a series talks, we agreed to break off any arrangements we have outside of marriage after a month. In this month I wouldn’t care about what she does. But…
The betrayal and the hints that she gave… Makes me doubtful she will entirely break off, even if she really does breaks off, if it’s just me who wants to fix out marriage but she doesn’t want to put in the effort to fix our marriage, I do not see the future as being happy. Now I’m at a dilemma to whether to divorce and fight for the care and control of my kids, or try to trust her and fix the marriage. I do have some friends who advice just let the judge decide and if she takes the care and control, let her n her bf take care while I go free and single. But for me my main concern is I want my children to have a whole loving family that neither of us have (she says her bf family is really loving and is the kind she’s looking for, unlike my family whose dysfunctional as compared to a normal family).