Little bit about me: M, 26 this year, stable job, single with supportive family.
I have always loved travelling and wanted to live/work overseas one day.
Due to this ‘dream’ of mine, i have stayed away from dating locals these few years as i feel ‘guilty’ that if I develop a relationship with someone local, I am sorta wasting their time since many locals I have talked to always have this idea of ‘settling down soon before 30 with a BTO’ that sort of thing.
Obviously i have no prejudice against my own people, just that I am always thinking about this ‘dream’ to move to somewhere and experience overseas life a while.
Anyone have the same opinion as me or am i just having a wishful thinking? No hate please. Haha
Netizen’s comments
- Dating preferences are yours to decide. No justification needed.
That being said, do consider that there may be locals that want to live abroad too. It’s fine if your dating preference is to date a non-local but if your preference really is to find someone open to living outside SG – no need to narrow your dating pool unnecessarily.
- Nah, you’re free to do what you want. As long as your decisions aren’t coming from a place of hate, why not, right?
That said, if you’re avoiding locals for relationships, what makes you think you’ll be “prepared” once you meet a foreigner? Might just be an assumption but not all relationships have to be “the one to last a lifetime” – it could be a learning moment for you and the other person and even if it doesn’t lead to “settling down soon before 30 with a BTO”, you’ve still progressed in life by having had a relationship.