Can we retire the term “SPG”??!?!?!?
Had a pretty horrid experience today while on the MRT. I was taking my child to her play date today & there were a few supposedly local young men in the train carriage, one of whom cooed at my child in her pram, saying how cute she was (She is Eurasian as I married a Frenchman).
However as we were alighting, I overheard in earshot “Baby so cute, but mom is SPG.”. I wld have turned back & confront him if not for the closing doors.
I guess that was the hay that broke the camel’s back. Growing up I have always dated Caucasians & have to lived with the unfair judgement that I was an “SPG”. I was ridiculed for just wanting to date above my status in life? Is that so wrong? I don’t want my daughter to have to endure this too if she chooses to only exclusively date men who look like her father.
I realise all this hate & vitriol stems mostly from the patriarchal system with their fragile male egos who just lash out at us because we deem them less desirable than what others have to offer.
While we have a degrading term like SPGs to describe women like me (who just want love), we don’t have a similar phrase for old loser men who have Vietnamese brides or their Vietnamese women for that matter too?
Let’s face it, what the atypical local Singaporean male boy has to offer is rather dismal compared to Westerners (even including Western born Asians). All the more so that the majority of Westerners here are a cut above the rest from their home populations.
In terms of accent, charisma, height, intelligence, personality and most importantly manliness, it is unfortunate that there is just too much disparity to overcome. Contrary to what “woke” feminists say, we want our men to take care & provide for us. We want to desire our men for being men, not emasculated Mama’s boys who are basically push overs & don’t even get me started on their bedroom grade level. There is a reason why SG is a efficient sterile city, not a city for love like Rome or New York or London.
You cannot blame us Asian women for just having a justifiably preference for Westerners. If the reverse was true, that Western women desire Asian men, we would definitely cheer our Asian brothers on rather than lament on your desirability.
So while you SG boys try and fix your own insecurities, can we just retire the term “SPG” since it’s not only demeaning but really nobody holds Sarong Parties anymore.