My bf and I have been dating for over a year and in that time he’s never owned a car. I have one and he basically has been using my car for things like groceries, seeing friends, going hiking, appointments etc. He does split petrol with me but I pay for insurance, maintenance etc. He probably uses the car as much as me at least 3-4 days a week but he refuses to get his own. I had many discussions about him getting his own car but he made it clear he thought cars were wastes of money and he didn’t want to pay for one.
I lived pretty close to him and he wanted me to continue living in my apartment nearby so he could have access to my car. That’s not what he said but that’s the impression I got. I moved to a cheaper apartment 10 min away by car which is 45 min by public transport. I did it partly for the cheaper rent but partly to stop him from using my car.
He was pissed because now he can’t use my car and asked me to give him my car from fri-Sun so he could continue to use it. I said no and he said I need to drive to visit him every time because it took too long by bus and I had a car so I can visit him easier. I told him I would only visit him once he made the effort to visit me once because I felt he would get use to me giving in to whatever he wanted (like letting him use my car).
After 4 month of this he got frustrated enough to buy his own car but he complains it’s a waste of money. Btw he is not poor he’s actually an account that makes good money he just hates spending any of it. He called me the asshole for not driving to visit him and forcing him to buy a car because the bus takes too long.
Here are what netizens think:
- Move away from the relationship
- Your car matters more to him than you do
- Yeah it feel like he mainly use her for a car. They need more communication but why should she pay for a car he use 50% of the time because he doesn’t want to buy one because he is so stingy with his money. And he still bring it up it didn’t make him realize how much he relied on her car.