I don’t know why my gf love to ask me if she’s fat and get upset no matter how I reply. We have been together for a year and I really dislike it when she ask me these kind of questions because of the way she responds.
My gf is a 32C with a 24 inch waist. She’s 163cm and I think she’s underweight. I memorized her dress size so when we go shopping I would help her find her sizes. She’s a xs or xxs. To me, she’s a goddess no matter what she wears. I made a mental note to be careful because once I passed her a size L clothing and she got upset and asked me if I thought she’s this large. My mistake.
Sometimes she would randomly ask me if she’s fat in an outfit. I would say she looks great and she would sulk and tell me don’t bluff her. Sometimes when she scroll ig she would ask me if this influencer looks skinnier and prettier than her. I always tell her in my eyes her figure and looks are the best. Then she would roll her eyes. I don’t know why she like to ask me these kind of difficult questions.
The other day we argued about this then I asked her if she wanted me to say someone else is prettier than her coz even when I said she’s the best she don’t believe and get more upset. Then she cried. I felt bad.and clueless.
I’m not a smooth talker so I really don’t know how to make her feel good about herself. If I say she’s pretty, wrong. If I say not pretty, which I won’t, also wrong.
I love her very much but I cannot stand answering these kind of silly questions. She said I don’t understand her. I really don’t. Why can’t she just tell me what she wants?
Here are what netizens think:
- If she is occupied with something interesting or useful, she wont have time to think about her body size. All the images she is being exposed to,.give her false impression about body images.What she sees on print, media etc are what they want impressionable girls to focus.She just has too much free time on hand.
- She just fishing for praises and attention. Next time she asks you, you ask her back, “Am I handsome?”Give her hell no matter what response you get. Two can play.
- The reality is that her self-worth is tied to all these numbers and sizes. Therefore nothing you say (or anyone else) will ever change her insecurity.Idw to give her shit for her body issue struggles bcos tbh all these unrealisitc expectations for female bodies come from media and society… But if you aren’t prepared for a lifetime of her mental breakdowns regarding her size (which will naturally change with age), you should leave for your sake.You can’t fix her (nor is it your responsibility) and it’s hard for her to change her unhealthy mindset if that’s the basis of her identity.