Friend’s Wife abandons baby(1y) and Husband for new boyfriend. Now her family want to fight for custody. Is there a way my friend can win ?
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Dont wanna say much later I kena defamation suit from friend’s wife hahaha. But his wife has been having an affair for a good 2 months maybe more, going over to stay at bf’s (whom was a friend of both) house every night neglecting her own child.
Now don’t know where she staying lmao, doesnt even ask about her own child. Blames husband for neglecting her so find other person’s touch lmao.
Husband has been heartbroken, working day and night to support his child now, but now wife’s family wants to fight for custody . Wife’s family got money, husband not so much. How like that Women…
Netizens’ comments
- A court fight is not going to be in his favour. Also for clarity, Singapore courts generally rule for shared custody. It’s Care and Control that has to be decided. Essentially who is the main caregiver.
For the fight, he’ll need to be as vicious as possible by showcasing her neglect, her lack of contribution. Even then it’s an uphill battle.
He needs a lawyer, and I can only tell you what my lawyer told me. The courts in general don’t like to upset the established order. If the child’s welfare is taken care of, they generally do not like to make major changes. So his best bet is to drag it out. The longer the status quo remains, the better his chances. Also, before custody happens, divorce must happen first. The key is getting a divorce without alimony. That may be hard given the perceived nature of the wife.
I’d play a long game. Show her that she’s better off without care and control of the child. That she can go start a new life on her own and be happy. I was successful on that front. But if she pushes for a court battle, the odds are not in his favour. - Start gathering receipts. Proof that the mother abandon the baby (whether by texts or witnesses) stuffs he bought for the baby or anything he has done since the wife left without her help.
Baby usually goes to wife or husband, there’s no chance if the husband is fighting for custody, that the in laws minus the wife could get custody, especially if they have zero proof that husband is neglectful.
And please get a good divorce lawyer. - Set up camera, and try to capture wife as violent, and bf as dangerous too.
Also try to get that they are both bad for baby, and also that husband got financial means to take care of baby because got family.
Also show that she not a good mother, like how he came home to find baby alone, coz she was at bf place.