A netizen shared how she spent the whole day cleaning the house, only for her husband to conduct spot checks as though they were in the army and nitpicking.
Here is the story
I spent the whole day cleaning the house spotless… Only for my husband to rub his hand across the counter and complain that he can still feel some grit, and tell me to stand in the light so I can see the wipe marks from when I wiped the counter.
I spent the whole day cleaning the house spotless… Only for him to rub his hand across the counter and complain that he can still feel some grit, and tell me to stand in the light so I can see the wipe marks from when I wiped the counter. You know how when you wipe a surface? If you stand at a certain angle in the light you can actually see where you wiped? He wasn’t complaining that the counter was dirty, but that he can see the streak marks from where I wiped.
I went off on him and called him ungrateful and said I felt unappreciated. Of course, he didn’t see that I was justified for being upset and doubled down or defending himself like he usually does.
He rarely admits fault or apologizes, and if he does apologize, it’s rarely genuinely, he’s only doing it to shut me up while still not seeing that he’s wrong. He somehow twists it to make me seem unreasonable for being upset about his behavior.
After that argument, what he took away from it is that he should just be quiet and not tell me how he feels or i’ll blow up…
Rather than taking away that I spent all day cleaning up and for you to look at the literal spotless house and try to pick it apart “Oh, stand here in the light at this angle. See those streak marks?” Yes, the streak marks from the water and pinesol I used to wipe the counter that can literally only be seen at a certain angle in light?
Then while I’m telling him I feel unappreciated, he grabs a towel and tries to nitpick about that out of the blue because there’s a mark on the towel from when I used it to clean up a spill.
I told him for now on either higher a maid or clean up himself. The house is literally spotless and you complain, not about mess, but about the fact that you can see WHERE I wiped if you stand at a certain angle in the light.
I told him it makes me feel like no matter what I do, it’s not going to be good enough. If I don’t clean, he will complain about me being messy and unorganized, and if I do clean, if he can’t find a single spec of dust to complain about, he literally rub his hand across surfaces to feel for imperfections, or complain about the near invisible streak marks left behind that can only be seen at a certain angle in light that show where I wiped the counter with water and pinesol. He said those marks mean I used too much cleaning solution in the water.