Got blamed for divorcing cheating husband
I was blindsided by my husband for years. I never knew that he cheated until the affair partner and his 8 year old son showed up at our house during my mother-in-law’s birthday.
It was quite a mess at that time, since it was kind of a family gathering and both our families were there. The affair partner said that since my husband is the father of the child, he has to raise him as well.
Financial support is not enough. He should be a father figure of the child.
My mother-in-law agreed and said she wanted to raise the child in our home. I was so angry that I decided to divorce my husband and said it in front of everyone.
My family agreed with my decision and were supportive of me, while my husband’s family disagreed. My 15 year old daughter disagreed as well.
She asked me and my family to forgive her father so that our family would not be broken. My husband also cried so hard at that time and asked for my forgiveness, but I was not buying it.
He knew from the start that cheating is one of the deal breakers of our marriage since we discussed it beforehand.
What hurts the most is the betrayal of my daughter. At first, she kept asking me to forgive her father. She said her father promised not to do it again. She kept pestering me so that I would listen to and give up the idea of divorce and not to break the family apart and continue living with her father as if everything was fine.
She also said that her half-brother was innocent at all these, so it was fine to live with us. You can’t imagine how devastated I was as I listened to her bs..
When I asked her if she and the mother-in-law knew about the affair, she stuttered and changed the subject. From then on, I knew that they all knew. I told her that all of them were the ones who broke the family apart by their betrayal, not me.
Fast forward, divorce was successful, then my husband and mother-in-law moved out. Now, my daughter and mother-in-law hated me and blamed me for breaking the family apart and being a hard-hearted b—- (according to them).
My daughter also moved out with them. The last I heard, the mistress and her son were living with all of them.
I no longer have a daughter and a husband. I’m my own company.
Anyway, I still have my parents and my brothers who stand by my side. They are my strongest support system. What is a daughter? I still have my nephews and nieces I can dote on instead.
I can’t say I’m okay at this moment, but I wish someday I will be. I wish things will be better in the near future.