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This post is about my wife. No no I don’t mean to criticize her like how I don’t love her anymore, or regret marrying her. Its not like that. But something she does is driving me crazy.
We have a son. He’s turning 9 months old. He’s healthy, growing up well, picking up solid food. He even knows tummy time and will do the superman pose. But my wife has this crazy fear of SIDS. Its called sudden infant death syndrome. So crazy that from Day 1 since he was born, she insists that whenever he sleeps, at least 1 of us must be beside him to watch him sleep. To make sure he’s breathing. Yes, whenever he sleeps, day and night.
Because of this, my wife quit her job, started a small online business, so that in the daytime she can work beside the cot to watch him sleep. He sleeps for 20mins, or 1hr, or 2hrs, she will watch him. At night we take turns. We usually put him to bed at 8pm, so from 8pm to 2am, I watch him while she goes sleep, and 2am till morning she takes over the “second shift”. Sometimes if I need to work later she takes my place first.
It is very very tiring, 9months like this. We both look like pandas. Doctor says risk of SIDS is highest up to about 6months, though up to 1 year still have some risk. But its very very small risk. We always put him sleep on his back, and no toys no blanket no pillows in the cot. But my wife is still not satisfied. She says maybe after 18months then we can stop. She says our tiredness is nothing compare to his safety. I really think she is too much.
In the past I used to think I would like to have 2 children, maybe 3 if we can afford. Now after knowing my wife’s crazy pattern, I think 1 is enough. I’m too scared to have another one.