WIFE EARNS $400K/YEAR, HUSBAND EYEING HER MONEY & WANT HER TO SUPPORT HIS PARENTS

Expecting my wife to support my elderly parents

My wife has a high-paying job and earns significantly more than I do. I make around 40k, while she works in the private sector and makes 300-400k.

We split our finances equitably, with her paying 70% to my 30%.

A little background her parents both immigrated to this country so she and her sisters could succeed in life, and now all have very high-paying jobs, one working in tech and the other being a surgeon.

Meanwhile, my parents worked government jobs, and my sister is unemployed, so we are a relatively low-income family.

My wife did help my younger sister when she became a single mother at a young age by offering her a secretary job at her office, but my sister quit after a month as she found it too difficult. (which I can understand as she was raising a baby on her own)

Recently, her parents retired, and she and her two sisters give them around 2000 every month, which I find ridiculous; why do they need 6k? She assured me this money does not come out of our joint account.

However, when I brought up, my parents were also retired and could use the help. She told me that if I could afford to send it from my own salary, I should.

I was shocked and angry; my parents only had me to depend on while her sisters made a lot of money, so her parents would be fine either way.

My wife told her her parents sacrificed a lot; it is her responsibility, and my parents should be my responsibility.

She says I am being an a-hole for asking her to support my parents when she has never put pressure towards me for not contributing more to our household.

We had a similar argument before about loaning my sister some money to put a down payment on her house, but my wife said she would not use her money as she thinks my sister is unreliable and won’t pay her back.

I just don’t understand how she can be so cheap because she earns so much more than me.

Netizens’ comments

1. your sense of entitlement is vast. You could end up living on only your salary if you keep up this attitude.
2. She’s your wife, not a sugar mama for you and your family.
3. I’m kind of getting the impression your family is a bit entitled. Your wife helps your sister get a job, she quits it. You demand your wife lend your sister money, your sister who lives on benefits, who isn’t working, who most likely won’t pay it back?
   Your wife and her sisters do well because they worked hard and their parents sacrificed. You, your parents and your sister made your own life and career (or lack of) choices. You are all not entitled to your wife supporting you all.
4. If she earns enough to help provide for her parents and still be able to provide for your joint household, you don’t get to dictate what she does with her earnings. It’s not her fault or responsibility to provide for your family. If you want to help out your parents or sister, you need to do it from your own income.