what to do, I got kicked out/disowned. I don’t know if this is the right place to post this but here I am anyways. im 17F, in j1.
so yesterday, I got kicked out of the house and essentially got disowned, let me quote my mother “From now on u no longer my daughter “.
the reason? it’s stupid, so basically I had plans to meet my relatives and was bout to leave my house (it was around 4pm) but then my mother asked me to feed the dog for dinner (she eats at aroundd 7+pm) so obviously i couldn’t, so I said “I’m leaving soon, i can’t feed her”
she got mad at me saying i don’t take responsibility at home. she herself wanted to go out to get things for her uni course, therefore she couldn’t feed the dog.
no one’s really at fault just that she got mad at me over that? to add on before i got scolded for not feeding the dog, she had scolded me for being rude n nasty to my sister.
i didn’t even do anything to her? my sis was video calling my mother and decided to show what i was doing to my mother because she asked n I just didnt like it(i don’t like video calling much)so i told her to put the phone down which she didn’t and proceeded to walk closer/zoom in so obv ill be pissed
then i repeated it again in a pissed tone, n motioned for her to put her phone down n my mother saw it n ended the call with her and called me herself. she then scolded me for being “nasty” and “rude” to my sister. but honestly i dont think i did anything wrong.
okay context, single mother, sister with ADHD + ODD. not the best relationship with them. im basically a glass child. everytime something goes wrong/me n my sis quarrels, it’s my fault because “ur sister has a condition”, “can you be more understanding of her condition”, “go find out more about ur sis condition”.
i feel very wronged like all the time. to add on, because she’s a single mother, the financial situation at home isnt the best. and the fact that im in JC n still trying my best to cope in school n better manage my time(in sports cca, working part time, homoework etc.) means i dont help out with household chores a lot (which i know is my fault) n my mother starts comparing me with my sis(she’s 11). like i feel very stressed cuz of this. so yea staying with them isnt the best for my mental health either.
this isnt the first time ive been kicked out. i was living with my mother n her boss(her boss offered us a place to stay because our old house was sold due to a divorce) n honestly i wasnt happy living there.(house was in yishun, school in jurong west) so i was kicked out because i talked bad about the boss lol(he/she was lowk perv n i felt uncomfortable n told my friends abt it).
then they(my mother n the boss) went through my phone(that i paid fully for with the money i earned from working) and found out i talked bad about the boss. so because of me talking bad i got kicked out(was lowkey happy i got out of that place)
but when my mother saw that i hurt myself her reply was “if you want to die, tell me, i can help you” along with all these, they threatened to throw my phone out the window. i ended up moving to my relatives place(i stayed till after O’s where my mother begged me to go back)
she’s very manipulative n gaslights me alot. n the fact that my sister has disorders, means i hardly get any attn. like i was at the cc receiving ECHA + EAGLES award, my mother sat through it while staring at her phone.
she didnt even come up to take the photo with me n everybody elses parents did. she was just pestering n asking me when we could leave.
n for the period where i got kicked out, she said she got mental illness n blamed me for it. because of all the gaslighting, and the blame i have to take,
i have thought of killing myself(tried overdosing) and maybe it would be better if i wasnt around(so she would have no one to blame.)
i aint the nicest to my sister, i admit that(its hard to make her listen n thus i lose my patience ) and my mother will bring up the fact that i treat my friends better n nicer but thing is i have rlly tried my best as an older sister.
after getting kicked out/disowned last night, i went to my relatives place. so i have a place to stay, however i dont think this is right.
my friends have suggested me to call CPS, or to tell a teacher but after what happened last year i dont feel like troubling teachers.
so what do i do. im perfectly fine with staying with my relatives but i just think that my mother is unfit to be a mother. (throwing her responsibilities onto me and blaming me for it.) because of this i resulted to selfharming and tried overdosing