Should I feel guilty about not working
My husband does not so much as lift a finger around the house, he does not even wash his own cup.
Yet he insisted on buying a big house and now I had to stop working to handle every big and small thing in th house. He allows me to engage a helper but if I go back to work my line is usually very demanding and by the time I end work I am usually exhausted. It would mean I would need to leave the helper at home alone for quite some hours if husband goes out.
My home is also not near any MRT or bus stop and so the commute alone would be tiring. When i used to work, usually i only reach home around 8 or 9 pm. I really dont want to go back to that lifestyle again in a hectic job, but now I am no longer in the corporate world and can’t help but feel left behind or stuck with no way out. I handle everything from fixing the new stand fans to finding all contractors for fixing lights, fixing door etc, plus i handle the tenancy agreement (we rent out our other property).
Plus, i help out in husband’s work. But still I feel guilty about not working. Yet i feel i wont have enough time if i work as husband leaves everything to do with housework and household management to me, except he buys food, tidies the bed, helps out to hang clothes once in awhile.
Here are what netizens think:
- The men don’t notice the house dirty and untidy. Lower your own standards.
- Hire a maid, or 2. If you can afford a big house, you can afford to hire maids. Choose not so pretty ones if you know what I mean.
- If you don’t have kids, you should work to be relevant to the fast-changing workforce. Are you sure your marriage/husband will last until your last breath? Then why do you depend on him for your finance and retirement?
- If he can afford ot and pays everything its fine, u can just find a time flexible job that can be managed at home. On weekends engage helpers to do the remaining house keeping so u wont get tired amd can enjoy ur weekends