My boyfriend doesn’t arouse me anymore
The title says it. My boyfriend doesn’t make me turned anymore. I have an ok libido though, I get very obscene dreams as well and wake up wanting to F. So that means I’m still being able to get turned on lol.
The f-ing with my boyfriend is fine, but most of the time I’m not that in the mood during it. He can make me come and such. But… the turned on feeling just isn’t there ;(
I love my boyfriend a lot and intent to stay with him. He gets really aroused by me, but is very polite and not really dominant and assertive.
I get aroused by dominance and assertiveness, and men that act more ‘beastly’ I guess. I’ve told my boyfriend these preferences many times, but (obviously) he can’t change his personality in bed like that…. So now I’m feeling nearly zero attraction towards him in bed.
I don’t want to break up with him since he’s the love of my life, but I’m really clueless what to do!!
Netizens’ comments
- You’ve communicated your desire and intentions, that’s a first step but there are many more after that. What gets his rocks off?
- I saw a comment just before you deleted it where you mention that he is really dependent on you since you moved together. Here is the comment I was writing in response:
Are you doing most of housework or any other adult responsabilities? Maybe you assumed a “mom role” and now you see him as a child that you are taking care of instead of your equal partner. - I just wonder how you could be initially aroused if he never was assertive nor dominant. If he has always been like that, what else changed?
- I have a few questions actually. So does he stimulate your mind or mentally arouse you ? When you share what you feel with him or want to feel with him how does he respond ?