My wife cheated on me with a 27-year old virgin
This is a long story. But Ill try and keep it short as possible. A year ago in February my wife cheated on me with a a co-worker of hers. He was a 27-year old virgin who still lived at home with his mom.
At first, we were in terms that we were separating but chose to live together still due to our bankruptcy we have going on.
At the time it seemed like the best idea to make sure that we both had a roof over our heads and that our daughter wouldnt miss out on any time with us.
But, maybe a week in to us agreeing to the separation she seemed distant with me and my daughter. Not like avoiding us but not being in the same room or really interacting with us after work.
She would just stay on her phone texting and hiding the screen. I Obviously grew suspicious and was hurt. Our separation was still fresh and I wasnt 100% on board with it.
Fast forward maybe a week and me her begin talking about working things out. But still during every evening she was distant and hiding her phone.
One day during all the talks of working it out I had to pick her up at her work. I seen her from a distance walking in a crowd of people and right up on her was a guy she had to tell to stay away from her 3 years ago due to him annoucing that he had more feelings than just at a friendship level.
I watched her get close and scratch his chin like she would do to me. She got in our car and I immediately confronted her about it. But she just said she does that to everyone.
At this time Im an emotional wreck and nowhere near in a good mindset due to her going back and forth with working it out or not.
A day later I had to pick her up again. She was alone on her walk to our car. On our drive home I told her to show me her text messages.
She immediately lost it, kinda like a cornered animal. I asked her to swear on our daughter she wasnt leading me along with her co worker.
She sweared nothing was happening and we drove home. During me making dinner she said she had to go for a drive and took our daughter with her.
Maybe about 10 minutes later she called me and said we had to talk. She picked me up and we drove down a road close to home. Thats where she told me she had been hooking up with her co worker.
This wasnt my proudest moment but I absolutely lost it. With weeks of being told we’ll work it out and then her hitting me with that, I coudlnt keep it together.
I drove us to her aunts house so i could have a better understanding of what i was just hit with and so that our daughter wouldnt have to watch it.
Fast forward maybe 2 weeks later, my wife told me that a night she was supposed to be out with her one friend was actually with him.
This was weeks before anything was ever said about our separation. I asked her how she could go out and cheat and she stood her ground claiming that going out with him wasnt cheating.
After months of this she decides to date him. I know i cant do anything about it but that doesnt mean I have like him. Cant stand looking at him personally.
Every child pick up it would just be me and my ex-wife doing the talking and i wouldnt acknowledge him. Until one time he came into my home and i was sure to let him know he wasnt welcome in it.