My wife suddenly wants me to marry her bestfriend.
In my religion (Islam), it is permissible for the man to marry up to 4 wives, but it is not reccomended cause he needs to do justice amongst them. So the polygamy life is not for everyone. And certainly not for me.
I’ve been happily married to my wife for 5 years. Had 2 kids together. Just like any woman, she don’t prefer/want their man to marry anyone else. I never wanted to be in polygamy anyways, so it’s all great for us.
Months ago, her bestfriend got a divorce from her ex husband. They’ve been meeting each other a lot to talk about it and to be there for her. Now her bestfriend is pretty lost as she has about 2 kids to care for without the father.
Few days ago, my wife asked me directly, “Would you like to marry my bestfriend?”. I’m confused, I thought it’s a test, but either way, I said no. Then she said that if I marry her bestfriend, she could have someone to care for her and her children will be a part of the family too and they’re already close friends to my kids anyways.
You see, I understand, cause in Islam, even if you do want the polygamy life, it’s reccomend to marry those who are single mothers or widows so you can actually help them out. But still, I don’t wish to be in polygamy. And I’m still believing that my wife is joking or testing me.
Today, I went out to work, but I forgot something at home so I went back. When I was in my room to take my things, my wife came home with her bestfriend and sat in the living room, and I eavesdrop their convo. My wife said to her that I didn’t want to be in polygamy, but she wants to try to convince me to be in one for her bestfriend. Her bestfriend said to not force me to make her the 2nd wife and who knows if I’ll change my mind later. Her bestfriend said it’ll just be great if it really happens, but if not, she’ll find some other ways.
So…my wife has always been against me marrying anyone else… But now, the situation is different. Normally, you’d hear some guy marrying another without the wife knowing. Here, I’m in reverse. I have nothing againts her bestfriend. I knew her for years, I know she’s a great person, and I admit, she is pretty (My wife is prettier to my eyes anyways). But, I really really don’t wish to be in polygamy as I’m scared if I can’t do justice amongst them. Financially, yes, I can do, but still, in my heart, I really just don’t want to.
What can I do now?
PS : I hope none of you start debating about the rulings in my religion. I know polygamy isn’t a sweet topic but I hope none will say anything bad my religion. Just asking for opinion and advice here regarding my situation. Thank you.