I (28F) am getting less and less attracted to my obese boyfriend (30M)
My boyfriend (30) and I (28) have been dating for about 5 months now. It likely would have ended a few weeks in had I not gotten pregnant by him but here we are.
Abortion is not an option for me. I am doing everything I can to try to make it work, because I don’t want to be a single parent.
He is about 150kg. I knew this before ever sleeping with him or dating him. But now it is really starting to bother me for a lot of reasons.
I get so embarrassed in public and I feel like people stare at us. I don’t like when he shows me any affection in front of people.
I haven’t introduced him to a lot of my family or posted much of him on my social media pages because I am embarrassed by his weight.
He snores so loud that I can’t even sleep in the same room as him. He’s a really messy eater and watching him eat disgusts me.
He says he wants to lose weight and get healthy but it seems like the pattern has been that he will diet and do well for a few days and give up.
I try to be as supportive as I can be, but I’m starting to feel like it’s something I can’t look past. It makes me angry that he says he wants to lose weight and then doesn’t take much action to change his lifestyle.
I feel like such a bad person for being so repulsed by him and it feels like I’m being shallow. I haven’t been wanting to sleep with him because of how unappealing he’s been to me lately.
I worry about his health a lot. I also worry that he won’t be a good enough parent. I don’t want my child to grow up thinking it’s normal or acceptable to be obese. I also don’t think he would be able to keep up with a young toddler running around.
He also has recently shown me that he has a very grumpy/negative outlook on life and I’m the complete opposite of that.
I am just not sure if I should even try to continue this relationship anymore, because I feel like he deserves to be with someone who truly loves him as he is but again, I’m terrified of being a single mom. I wish I could look past it but I don’t know how. I need advice.
Should I stay in this relationship for the baby, or should I leave?