I found out I was the other woman
When I (53w) was 36, I met a man who completely swept me off my feet. I’m talking poetry, little thoughtful handmade gifts, intense make-out sessions,and amazing in the bedroom.
He told me he loved me after one month and said he’d never felt like this about anyone before.
In the beginning he told me he had just broken up with his girlfriend of 7 years.
Her name was Jennifer, and he has a tattoo with her name on it. My name is also Jennifer and we kind of made a joke about him only dating Jennifers.
I expressed concern about being the rebound girl, but our feelings were so intense I chose to ignore that. About 6 months in, and after ignoring some red flags about his whereabouts sometimes, I got a call.
“Hello, is this Jennifer?” “Yes, who is this?” “This is Jennifer, Sean’s girlfriend.” “But I’m Sean’s girlfriend!” “I’m letting you know that we got back together 3 months ago and he’s been cheating on me and you with each other”.
Her and I talked for an hour and I found out that he would text me from her bed while she was showering after f-ing.
We compared notes and discovered many times when we both f-ed with him on the same day. There were times she gave him oral after he had been with me without showering in between.
At this point, he was working on a company project and was gone for three months. She stopped answering his calls and so did I.
She invited me to meet up. While we were sitting together, our phones were ringing non-stop. He would call hers, and then mine. Over and over and over.
Finally, I answered her phone.
“Hello, Sean. This is Jennifer. Did you want to speak to other Jennifer? She’s right here.”
You could hear his shock over the phone. We both told him to go f himself.
I was heartbroken, of course, but more than that I was angry and humiliated. That was what hurt the most for me. That I had been duped. That he played me for a fool.
Unfortunately for her, they got back together and ended up having a child together. She already had two children from her previous relationship to him.
Skip to 10 years later, I’m creeping her Facebook account and see that they are no longer together and she hates him.
I PMd her. We messaged back and forth for a while. She told me how lucky I was to have dodged that bullet. He had another woman the whole time they were living together raising their daughter.
She finally kicked him to the curb but will be forever forced to deal with him as a co-parent.