WOMAN DEMANDS FUTURE HUSBAND TO HAVE CAR, GIVE HER MONEY, PAY BILLS & HAVE 4-ROOM FLAT

Men of Singapore would you date someone who aspires to be a stay at home spouse?

I’m asking this as a bet with friends. Some terms and conditions.

This stay at home wife is fun but opionated , vivacious leaning on loud. Can cook and clean. Average looking and a little on the chubbier side (yes I know it’s 2023 but let’s be honest yeah)

Expects husband to drive a sedan and maintain at least a 4 room HDB, pay for household expenses and allowance.

UPDATE: I don’t think being SAH spouse is bad. If both parties are agreeable to one partner staying home then that’s ok. I’m asking how many men prefer their wives to SAH?

Netizens’ comments

1. If I have the salary to support I don’t mind.
   From the position of the wife, she have to ask husband for money when she ran out of allowance. Is that a good idea? Unless you are talking about japanese style where the wife take care of the finance and give the husband the allowance. I think that if only one partner have the only income, that person might have more say in the family which make it kind of unbalance.
2. I believe the bigger question is not whether the men are willing to, but more of whether they can afford to even consider this option in the first place.
   Financing a BTO hdb on single income is no joke. A 4 rm BTO goes for about $400K nowadays?
   Assuming its close enough, $400K amortized over 30 years at HDB’s 2.6% interest rate amounts to ~$1.6K a month.
   Meaning you need to earn enough to have $1.6K a month of your CPF contribution go to your OA, or you will be forced to top up in cash. Based on 62.17% OA allocation from 20%+17% employee + employer contribution, it equates to a gross pay of almost $7K.
   Meaning if your spouse earns less than this amount, it is very hard to consider.
   If the bet with your friend can filter out those who earn less than $7K, you stand a good chance to win, if not then…
3. A lot of people think being a housewife or househusband means shake leg at home.
   It’s a Payless job. Gotta clean, wash and cook. Manage inventory and all. Add kids and it’s absolutely a full time overtime job.
4. In the beginning of the relationship where there are alot of financial commitment such as housing down payments, renovations, marriage banquet and child birth, it is better for both to be working as it can be very very taxing to depend everything on one person (unless that person is earning so much that it doesn’t matter).
   Once the big purchases are gone, some couple will let one partner to stay at home to help in raising the kids during their tender year and go back to work once the kids are more independent. I have seen both gender do this and it is not that uncommon to see some dad taking this role now, especially when the wife are holding higher position in her work and earning more than the husband.
   Just take note that the stigma for guy to provide is still very strong, some people will gossip about it and it can be quite toxic and mentally draining to be gossip by others.