not wanting my friend to meet my boyfriend because she is beautiful.
I (28f) recently started dating a very nice man (32m). I have invited him and other friends to my birthday party soon.
I have one friend (26f) that is very beautiful. It happened in the past, that I introduced guys that I liked to her, and they immediately stopped being interested in me, and started liking her instead.
She is very beautiful and flirty. She Isn’t the most intelligent (it is impossible to hold an interesting conversation with her, because she has no interests and mostly nothing interesting to say but she is very beautiful so men just adore her).
I decided to not invite her to my birthday party, because I don’t want to lose the guy I am dating. If he sees her beauty, he might lose interest in me, like other guys in the past.
However she wished me happy birthday and said she has a gift for me and asked if I will celebrate. I lied and told her I won’t but I feel a bit bad about it. Am I the asshole?
Netizens’ comments
- Your beautiful friend is blessed with looks, don’t blame her for them. Use them to your advantage. If the new guy is going to immediately jump to another interest, it’s much better to find out now.
- Surely if you don’t feel you can trust your boyfriend then meeting her will be a perfect way to find out if you can or not?
And why are you still friends with her if she keeps ‘stealing’ (for want of a better term) your boyfriends?
It sounds to me like you don’t actually like her and just don’t have the backbone to tell her. - If a man decides to dump his gf for another beautiful woman, that’s a HIM problem. Ain’t the woman’s problem at all. The fact you wont let her meet your bf because shes pretty is really shallow. It doesn’t matter if shes pretty or not. If your bf suddenly falls for her, its not her problem. Yeesh you need to get over your insecurities
- You know it’s a good thing when that happens, right? The sooner the better, in fact.
If his head is turned by your friend, it would easily be turned by another random beautiful woman too. The world is full of them, and he WILL encounter at least one sooner or later.
If he is the one for you, he won’t choose your friend no matter how beautiful is, because to him, she would not be as beautiful as you. Instead of ostracizing her for something she really can’t do much about, embrace her and team up!
Think of it as a test to see which of your suitors are keepers.