My bf thinks that because I don’t work(I’m disabled) that I should do most of the household chores. F30 M26
My bf works a manual labor job. That’s actually how we met. I’ve also done manual labor jobs. I know how exhausting it is. However, I still kept my house clean and cooked dinner.
I cook dinner every single night for him. And breakfast on the weekends. I also do 90% of the house cleaning. He has occasionally vacuumed, like three times in 4 years.
Obviously, I’m losing my mind at this point. He thinks that being tired is an acceptable excuse for not doing the one thing I asked him to do. Which is dishes. That’s literally it.
I cook all my meals at home, so if last night’s dishes aren’t done, I have to do the dishes before I can make breakfast and the rest of the days meals.
A lot of times I don’t even say anything to him. If he didn’t do the dishes. I just quietly suck it up because I know it sucks to work. But I can’t help the fact that I feel disrespected.
If I lived alone or had a normal roommate, I wouldn’t be cooking dinner every night. Some nights I would just order out or eat nothing. I wouldn’t have to pick up after anyone other than myself.
Likewise, if he was single, no one would be cooking dinner for him. No one would be doing the dishes for him. No one would be cleaning the house for him.
I’m not a stay-at-home wife. We split the bills 50/50.
I’m not crazy right? Like I get sacrificing for your partner, but I don’t see how he’s sacrificing anything particularly for me. He didn’t put a ring on it. He doesn’t have any plans to put a ring on it…
Is him being tired from work an acceptable excuse for just coming home and doing nothing? If he was living alone, I guess he could just come home from work and crash and do nothing. But he also wouldn’t eat if he did nothing. I don’t know. Help?