[30f][31m] my fiancée[not married]has 45k in credit card Debt. But expects me to pay her bills.
So last night I found out that my fiancée has 45k in credit card debt. She got a 15k loan because she quit her job because she didn’t like the vp.
She said it was to help her transition and find another job. She has a job but wants to quit because she wants to get married and then move shortly after.
Her current job she’s half doing. Back to the loan to “help us.” She says she factors in my bills as well as a part of “us becoming one” and all the little things she does for me. I’ve told her that I can do the little things myself.
She took the loan out without asking me, now she expects the same. For me to go out my way to pull out my pocket. I have good credit. And I have advised that if my credit goes bad. We are both screwed in the long run. So I won’t be pulling loans and such. She was talking about finding a second job. But I need to see you pull off the first one.
Anyway, I understand helping me but going into debt to do so is not a good idea to do so. And because we aren’t married yet I’m not obligated to get her out of debt. I want to help her but I wish to do so safely without ruining my credit just in case something happens. I mean she want me to pay bills in a house in her name so you can kick me out and all that money is wasted….
How can I fix this situation? Am I obligated to pay her bills