I can’t get wet.
I’ve been married to my husband for a year. We’ve only ever slept with each other. Our intimate life is nice, but with one persistent problem: I don’t ever get wet, I just don’t seem to produce any natural lubrication.
It’s not a matter of not being aroused. We always take things slow with lots of foreplay, and he makes sure I’m completely relaxed and ready to go. But I’ll be feeling entirely aroused and still just bone dry.
We use lube so it doesn’t hurt, but most lube causes contact irritation for me and I haven’t found one that doesn’t yet (I’m apparently allergic to aloe, so nearly all of the “natural clean” lubes are out of the question).
I’d like to increase my natural lubrication somehow or at least get to the bottom of why I don’t seem to have any. Any advice is welcome.
Netizens’ comments
- Go see a gynecologist
- what’s your age? thats my first thought since I know lubrication can be an issue the older u get. or if ur on any medications, that could be affecting it too. if anything id say just try drinking more water. but also women just have different natural lubrication amounts as well, some have trouble getting wet and some have trouble getting way too wet.
- Hi, chiming in with the fact that this can be normal. It’s sometimes referred to arousal non-concordance and is basically just a miscommunication between the brain and body. The brain will be ready but the body doesn’t respond. This is not usually a problem with lube, but I see that’s where your problem lies 🙁
Might be worth seeing a doctor to help you find a suitable lube. - Firstly, I am no doctor. I would advise seeing one to know for sure. Now what I wanted to say:
Some women just don’t get wet. I once say a tv program where a doctor explained about it and there was nothing wrong with it. It can maybe be a bit inconvenient to always need to use lube and I can see how it can be painful to always read how men love it wet but there’s nothing wrong with you. I’m not sure if something can be done but a doctor might help.