So, I met this guy “adam” 5 months ago, he’s really sweet and loving. he has a 2-year-old kid with his baby mama.
the problem I have is that whenever we plan on going on out for a date, adam’s baby mama would call and demand he take their son to stay with him. They never married so there’s no legal custody arrangements in place. Every time we plan to go out, she’d call and demand that adam come pick their son up to stay with him for hours resulting in our plans being cancelled. I told him his baby mama has been doing this deliberately, he said he noticed too but can not tell her no because if he refuses to take their son, she’d not allow him to see him for a whole month as a punishment. I told adam he has to put an end to this because it’s affecting how our relationship is progressing and he said he’ll try.
Last week, he invited me out for dinner at the restaurant. I was excited because he told me he was already at the restaurant so I thought “his baby mama doesn’t know so she won’t wreck our plans”. I got dressed nicely and did my hair and just took care of myself real good looking forward for some quality time together.
however, when I arrived to the restaurant I saw adam and his son there. I felt rage and disappointment washing over me. adam saw me and waved me to come closer but I turned around and walked out. he followed me outside trying to explain but I decided to go home and the date was obviously cancelled.
later he texted explaining that his baby mama did it again (he said he didn’t know how she figured out we were going out) and demanded he takes their son for the night. He said he didn’t want to “be punished” but neither wanted to cancel our date so he brought his son to the restaurant and I was wrong to turn around and walk out. I told him I was sick of this woman dictating our life and being intentionally hurtful, but he said I ruined our night after he tried to compromise and he didn’t appreciate that.
Maybe I did but I just wanted a quiet dinner for us both and I’m disappointed that he once again let his baby mama bully him into doing what she wanted.
Does that woman have some spy app on his phone?