Advice on dealing with a sensitive husband
We are parents to a bb.
My husband likes to be the best. He is sensitive to criticism whether it is direct or implied. He will strike me physically if he feels that I am criticising him
. He has done so already, at least once every one to two months. I continue to stay with him because I have no family and afraid of being alone.
Our baby is cries a lot these days. We try to soothe him by 8 pm so that bb can sleep. My husband wishes to play with bb around 7:30 pm so I pass bb to my husband. He aggressively bounces bb or have bb lie down on his lap. Bb is frequently unhappy and cries. I have to spend time soothing the bb and eventually bb settles.
My husband is mad at me. Calls the baby names and scolds me for not letting him play with the baby. I ask him to stop calling bb names, it’s akin to bullying. My husband loses it.
I am worried that my thin skinned husband will not be mature enough to parent our child responsibly. I worry for bb’s safety. I fear that my husband will interpret bb’s cries as rejection and lash out at bb. I don’t mind being hurt anymore but my child is important.
If we separate now, he might still receive joint custody – not an option atm. Any advice welcome. Is this a totally irreparable relationship?
Here are what netizens think:
- Honey, lets call it as it is. U are not dealing with a “sensitive” husband. U’re dealing with domestic abuse. First step for u is to stop making excuses, both for him n for urself. It doesn’t matter whether he’s like this before or after marriage. Its wrong.
- a baby is a still human with his/her own mind even though he/she cannot speak yet. he doesn’t know how to respect the baby and you. there’s nothing to repair because he simply thinks he is superior.
- Aggressively bouncing baby may cause shaken baby syndrome. He has also physically hit you. You can seek help at a shelter.