I never imagined I would be saying these, but here I am. As a woman, it is becoming increasingly clear to me why men cheat on women.
It all boils down to the fact that women are refusing to ‘do it’ with their partners.
Growing up, I was always taught that men have a much higher ‘drive’ than women, and that this is why men cheat.
As I have gotten older, however, I have come to realize that there is more to it than that. Men may have a higher ‘drive’, but it doesn’t mean that they should be expected to cheat on their partners.
It’s easy to point the finger of blame at men in this situation, but I firmly believe that women need to take some responsibility too. We are the ones refusing to ‘do it’.
We are the ones who are saying no. We are the ones who are turning down their advances. We are the ones who are leaving them feeling rejected and unloved.
I know that there are many reasons why women may not want to ‘do it’ with their partners. Maybe they don’t feel emotionally connected to them, or maybe they aren’t physically attracted to them.
Maybe they are too tired or too stressed to engage in physical intimacy. Or maybe they just don’t feel like ‘doing it’.
Whatever the reason may be, it’s important to remember that ‘doing it’ with your partner is a part of a healthy relationship.
Both partners should feel wanted and desired. When one person is left feeling rejected and unwanted, it can lead to infidelity.
I don’t believe that men should be excused for cheating on their partners, but I do believe that women need to recognize the role they play in this situation. We need to be more mindful of our partners’ needs and be willing to show them physical affection.
We need to let them know that we still desire them and are still attracted to them.
We also need to be willing to have honest conversations about our ‘bedroom’ lives. We need to talk about what we want and what we don’t want.
We need to talk about our desires and our boundaries. We need to talk about what is and isn’t working for us.
At the end of the day, no one should be made to feel like they are not wanted or desired. If a woman is refusing to ‘do it’ with her partner, then it’s important that she recognizes the role she plays in this situation and takes steps to rectify it.
Otherwise, she may find herself in a situation where her partner has no choice but to look elsewhere for physical intimacy.