I’m tired of being the at home mom while my fiancé is out partying
Currently laying awake with baby at almost 4 in the morning, absolutely exhausted but unable to sleep. He said he wasn’t going to be gone long, I told him we can’t be going to bed at 3 in the morning for the 4th night in a row.
Baby likes to wake up super early and I get stuck watching him. He told me for sure he’d be back home before them. It’s about to be 4.
He said he was going to start coming back an hour ago. He’s legit 5 minutes away. I know he’s not cheating, just probably caught up talking the ears off whoever is still awake at his friends.
I messaged him that this wasn’t fair. He said he wants to spend as much time with his friends as possible because he feels like he’s going to get a job soon.
But it’s been a struggle to get him to even look at any jobs, let alone the ones I find for him and send to him.
I just ask for a part time job from him. I’m about to start mine in 2 days, where’s my ticket to go out and stay up late? Where’s my ticket to sleep in till 1 for the 4th day in a row. Where’s my ticket to get upset that the baby is being a baby and making noise and not being soothed fast enough and waking me up?
Just really needed to vent because I’m sick of this.
Update: It’s almost 5 and this dude just came home. I’m livid.
I did talk with him a little when he got home, as much as I had the energy for. I was cold when he walked in and reminded him that he said he’d be home way earlier.
He apologized, but I didn’t really take it. I asked him what happened and he said he didn’t know, he just got so drunk and couldn’t sober up. I told him that he did that to himself and that i was very angry with him over it. He said his head started to really hurt is why he didn’t leave when he said he was going to. Again, I told him he did that to himself.
I told him that when baby wakes up, he’s going to watch him so then I can get rest. I was sick of paying for him being irresponsible. He’s currently sleeping on the couch and will be getting a formal talking to later. There are clearly things we both need to work on, such as my ability to set boundaries, and his ability to respect them. Our relationship will be determined based on our talk, for better or worse.
Our baby boy is 6 months old and was a surprise to the both of us. Luckily he’s very healthy and happy and hasn’t been affected by any of this.