A woman shared how her fiance doesn’t care about their marriage proposal, wedding and house hunting, and is asking others if they would stay in they were in her shoes.
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Bf does not care about proposal, wedding, house – suggestion and help needed for a lost lady here
I have been with my bf for 4 yrs. We are in our early 30’s. I am now not sure if this man is serious and if we should continue this relationship.
So he proposed to me in Dec 2021, because of a deadline he had promised my dad about one year ago.
He asked me about my dream proposal – location, ring design, proposal day details. He ended up picking glamping even though I had previously commented that glamping only looks glam but is not to my liking. He also got the ring design wrong, despite us visiting 10 shops to show him my ideal design. For dinner, the package we booked was bbq but he did not clarify with them carefully – it turned out to be DIY bbq instead of them bbq for you. So after all the hiccups, we just decided to go nearby for dinner.. Which we ended up eating at 10PM? I was starving. I am so upset with the proposal, but am I asking too much? What’s the point of asking what I want when he didn’t deliver on anything?
Secondly, we have been house hunting for a resale flat for about one year now. But I feel he hasn’t been serious in finding a house. He will always distract me with other plans and I will forget it. So basically, every month or so I will have to check back with him if he has found anything. I will always send him potential listings but he lacks involvement. Sometimes, I would even ask him to WhatsApp the agent to check on the listing, but it would slip his mind. It seems I will have to be the one finding the house on my own. He would keep sending my listings that do not meet our previously discussed criteria, let alone ethnic quota, which he has done so many times.
3rd rant. We are looking to get married in June. An intimate-style wedding. As the deadline is tight, I thought it is OK to start planning ASAP. I have already started doing research on the venue, photography, videography, which are the main things I suppose. He just lepak and let me do all the work. We want something more affordable and it definitely requires some effort and research. At some point of time, he even mentioned that he wanted to get it done and over with.
I’m just sad about his lack of involvement in almost everything. He seems like it just does not bother him as much? Especially after he often makes it known what he wants but does not actually take any action on his part. He doesn’t seem to care about what is important to me despite me actively sharing it with him way too many times. I am tired. I’m not sure if I am expecting too much from him.
What should I do? Would you stay if your partner treats you like this?
Netizens’ comments
Oh get use to it. It will get worse after you married to him. Like you want some appreciation of what u did, he will give you nothing but silence treatment.
This is life.
If u really want something, get it yourself. You dun need a man to give u what u want.