I (F27) got engaged recently. We had the engagement party at a restaurant. It was paid for by my future MIL.
My sister (F22) came with my parents. She is the type that lives by “the body positivity” concept which is more than okay but she tends to put me in situations where I find myself having to deal with people’s reactions and I’ll explain what I mean in a minute.
She came to the party wearing a dress above knee. My future MIL and the other women were staring at her legs constantly. MIL then pulled me aside and pointed out my sister’s leg hair. I was completely baffled and quiet shocked.
She said it made her and the other women feel uneasy and weirded out. I said I was sorry for how they felt and tried to stay calm but I was mad from the inside. The women continued to stare and my sister acted like everything was fine. I honestly felt like she caused disruption to the party.
I brought it up with her later and told her about what the guests felt about her unshaved legs. She kept chewing on her gum while completely acting like it was nothing, she even said my future inlaw women need to chill.
I told her this was unacceptable and that she should’ve shaved before coming since it was my event and I had to deal with the looks and disruption from the women. My parents told me to get off her back and leave her alone.
Then they left. Mom is now telling me to apologize for upsetting my sister after she came to share my happy moments. I told this to my fiance and he just kept laughing and making comments about how women are “ridiculous”.
Am I in the wrong here? I feel like she disrespected me and my guests.