My bf and I have been dating for 2 years and he recently hinted to me that he is preparing to propose to me. I got to know him through mutual friends. He’s 8 years older than me. We love each other very much but I worry we may not be compatible in bed.
The issue is he is less keen in doing the deed with me than I am into him. I find myself initiating most of the time. Sometimes he rejects me or wants to stop after I’m done which I find is weird. But I know during the process he is really into it so I don’t know why he would be ok with just cuddling. I’ve talked to him about it and he said he loves me and he finds doing it is not so important now as we will have a lifetime together. Really? He’s my 2nd serious bf so I don’t have much experience to compare.
Everything else about him is great. He is filial to his parents and show many traits of being a great partner. He cleans the floor at home and his room is actually neater than mine. He hangs the laundry and fold/iron clothes like an expert and he also wash the dishes. He also knows how to cook. Career wise he has been upgrading himself and he was promoted earlier than his peers. I would say he is a highly self driven person. My parents like him a lot and already treat him like a son in law. I find that emotionally and spiritually we can connect very well. I’m very attracted to him mentally and physically. He’s also very fit as he is a sporty person.
He’s a very organized person. Other than work, he packs his day with courses, exercise, on top of spending time with me. Other times he also makes time to connect with his friends. Even when he is so busy, I never felt that he is giving me leftover time. He influenced me to want to improve myself too. I start to wake up early and exercise with him on weekends and join classes to upgrade myself. I really enjoy having him in my life, as a boyfriend and also as a friend.
I find he has very high EQ. Many times I didn’t mean to hint anything to him but he took my words and turned them into actions which made me feel very loved. Once I mentioned I couldn’t find a seasonal coffee anymore and he managed to get me some from overseas. Just one example of the many times he did something thoughtful.
I can imagine how it would be like living with him and I think I would really love it. I think if he propose to me, I would say yes. But intimacy wise I worry I may not be turning him on as much as he turns me on. Sometimes I feel hurt and find it hard to accept that he would reject intercourse. Would this be a major problem for us in the long run? I don’t believe he is cheating or have some hidden weird fetish or what so I’m considering that he just seems to have a lower drive than me.