My boyfriend booked the cheapest hotel for our first anniversary.
We’ve both been working so hard and we agreed we’d just go for a staycation for our little weekend getaway.
He forgot Valentine’s Day (I didn’t – I got him flowers and tickets to a concert) and he got me a cheese platter (?!?!) for Christmas and… guh, I love him, but I don’t think I can have a life of next-to-no romantic gestures.
This place has a literal 2.8/5.0 rating and is in absultely the middle of nowhere – reviews tend towards furniture and not working applicances. It looks like the kinda dodgy place you take your affairs to.
In my head, this was like a last test… I didn’t offer any input, he said he’d take care of everything. He makes six-figures a year (twice my salary), has paid off his home, and spent $140 dollars on an anniversary hotel where I’m gonna have to bring my own sheets and plug-in my laptop to watch Netflix.
I am heartbroken, but I think this is gonna be the end of things. I f-ing hope he sees this and realises how cheap he’s made me feel.
Netizens’ comments
- Its not the price its the thought behind it. You shouldn’t have to spend ridiculous amounts to show you love someone
- (OP) Thank you, you’re right. And he picked the mouldy, poorly-rated one the one time he had to pay for something outright (we’re 50:50 on all other experiences/dates).
- I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling disappointed with the plans your boyfriend made for your anniversary. While it’s understandable to feel let down by the hotel choice, it’s important to communicate with him about your expectations and how you’re feeling.
Instead of assuming that this is the end of your relationship, have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend. Explain your feelings and discuss what you both can do to make the weekend special, even if the hotel isn’t ideal.
It’s possible that your boyfriend may not have realized the significance of your anniversary or your expectations for the weekend. Communication is key in any relationship, and it’s important to express your thoughts and feelings in a constructive way.
As for the hotel, if you’re uncomfortable with the accommodations, it’s okay to suggest finding a different place to stay. However, keep in mind that the most important thing is spending time together and celebrating your relationship. A fancy hotel doesn’t necessarily equate to a meaningful anniversary celebration.- (OP) I’m sorry. People are right, it does sound petty – but I keep on waiting for him to give some indication that he WANTS to look after me emotionally. It’s only a year, and I already feel like it’s going into bangmaid territory and this feels like another confirmation of it. Just doing the bare minimum in every case.