So I’ve (28F) been with my boyfriend (28M) for a little over a year now. He went down on me once, the first time we f-ed, and that was it. It was used as fore play. I hadn’t brought it up or asked because he does other things that are new and exciting to me and get me off.
But lately I’ve been craving the feeling of a tongue on me.
We were having a deeper conversation about our bedroom activities and I asked why he doesn’t like eating out. He was a bit hesitant and beat around the bush (haha), assuring me that the issue isn’t something anyone can control, you can’t help what your body tastes like etc.
At this point I knew what he was about to say, and he admitted he does not like my taste or smell.
I’ve never had a partner complain about that before. Granted I haven’t had a large number of people between my legs, but enough to where -someone- would’ve mentioned it, if it was that bad.
Initially I was very hurt and embarrassed. I excused myself for a few minutes then came back to the conversation.
He started making suggestions of all these things we could try and make it a better experience for him. But I personally would not be able to enjoy myself if I have to worry about grossing him out with my taste/smell.
We ended that topic by him buying me a new toy that’s supposed to feel like being eaten out, and me promising to let him try again under special circumstances.
He has helped my confidence go through the roof, but now it’s shattered and I’m embarassed to have him even touch me between my legs.
I saw myself spending the future with him, but now I’m concerned we aren’t compatible. I also can’t help but feel like a whiny little girl “He WoN’t EaT mE oUt” because at the end of the day, I am satisfied or mostly satisfied with every other aspect of our relationship.
I had always hoped my partner would be love my taste and smell and feel though.
Any advice or experiences with this situation are extremely welcome. Feeling a little lost at the moment.