My fiancé proposed to me 3 months ago with a $80 engagement ring he proposed to his ex wife. I did NOT know this was her ring.
He revealed it after we got engaged like a month after we got engaged when the conversation about this particular ring came up and he said this was his ex wife’s ring he first proposed to…
I asked why why would he propose to me with some other woman’s ring that belonged to her first?? And he said their marriage didn’t work out (she cheated on him) and she gave the ring back.
He is being so clueless and saying this isn’t a big deal and that I’m just starting to pick a fight for no reason. He said it’s just a ring and why would he waste another $80 on another ring when he has a ring already
First of all the price doesn’t bother me much. I didn’t really like this ring when I saw when he proposed either… it has a very tacky old fashion traditional style to this ring.
What bothers me most is obviously the fact that this ring belonged to his first wife and she wore this everyday for 5 years.
This ring has its own memories attached to it and it has its own story around it. I don’t want to be reminded of my fiancés ex wife and their entire 5 year marriage everytime I look at my hand
I hate looking at this ring everytime I see my hand. I just get reminders of his past marriage. I see his ex wife’s face when I look at my ring.
I stopped wearing the ring ever since he revealed the background story behind it. He told me he doesn’t care if I don’t wear it and my little “strike” isn’t going to work.
He mentioned that he’s not wasting his money on another engagement ring and I can wait for my $20 wedding band when we get our marriage done next month on our anniversary
I would really like other women’s perspectives if they were in my shoes
If it matters my fiancé makes $120k yearly income in a state where the cost of living is $50k