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WOMAN’S KIDS ALL GROWN UP, SHE FEELS LOST & DOESN’T KNOW WHO SHE IS ANYMORE

A woman shared how she has been a mother for the last 25 years and now that her children are all grown up, she feels lost and doesn’t know who she is anymore.

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Here is the story:

41/f. I’ve been a mom for the last 25 years of my life and now that the kids are grown it’s almost like I don’t know who I am anymore.

Like me as a person. Having my first kid at 17 I dove into parenthood, stopped all the hanging out, late nights etc. that’s what you’re supposed to do is what they say.

Ok. Fast forward to age 21 had a set of twins same guy just 2 more babies. So that’s 3 by 21. Per usual I dove into the role of mom and did my duty.

Now at 41, my kids are either in university or working and living their lives and I’m just here. I try new hobbies etc but it’s almost like I’ve been “preserved” for the past 24 years.

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My friends are either married or miserably single and spend their days at bottomless mimosas or nights at bars and or clubs that cater to our age group. Neither of which have ever been my thing.

I went to an adult store (nevermind why lol) but I went just to look around one night and ended up talking with the owner for a bit. He asked me this: “what makes YOU happy”.

The condition of the question is it had to be about ME not the kids or the ex but ME. Unfortunately, I couldn’t give him an answer. Smh can you imagine that?

Really thinking of yourself outside of your title of “mom” and not being able to say what makes you happy? I use to have hobbies etc that I liked to do but again I literally put it all aside and focused on my kids.

Being older now has opened my eyes to many things I’d LIKE to try but again it’s that whole mindset of well should I even bother?

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Will there be people my age there or will I stick out like a sore thumb?

A lot has changed to be honest I wouldn’t even know what to wear to an actual “event” or “date”. I just stay to myself and work my job.

But that’s not living. I guess I just don’t know where to even start.”

Editor’s notes: Well you know what they say, life begins at 40.

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