This might sound awful, but I think my bf is a major loser. I’m 23 and he’s 27. We’ve been together for 4 years,
I graduated and landed a full-time well paying job right after graduation. My boyfriend on the other hand is still finishing his degree, he never takes me out on dates and he still asks his mom for money because he can’t even afford a haircut yet he somehow he can still afford to buy games and fast food every day.
He refuses to work due to his program being “extremely challenging.” I’m growing tired of it and his parents have expressed to me that they’re fed up with him as well and will be cutting him off financially.
Whenever I scold him about his finances he begins his woe is me tirade, accusing me of being “a dictator just like his parents.”
At the beginning of the year, I started hounding him to start applying for jobs because he will be done with school soon and he should want to land a full-time job out of school as I did.
whenever I would bring up applying for jobs he would shoo me off explaining that “nepotism” will work for him due to his mom knowing a lot of people in the industry he’s going into.
We have plans to move out together and I’ve been saving 1k per month to help with every expense, my boyfriend, on the other hand, has saved nothing (due to the fact he doesn’t have a job).
it’s just very hard to see guys his age and younger doing more with their lives like having good jobs meanwhile my boyfriend is still asking for money from his parents.
I’m not ready to date other people because it sounds exhausting to have to create a whole new life with someone else and he is the only person I would feel comfortable living with. I just feel so stuck.