A netizen shared how his girlfriend like to pinch and slap him when she is annoyed with him and he doesn’t like it.
Here is the story:
Is it normal for girls to think it’s ok to use physical attack (e.g. slapping, pinching etc) as a form of “scolding” for their partners when they do something that annoys / angers them?
My girlfriend seems to like to, for things as mundane as me saying something she doesn’t like. Not like every day, but enough to be annoying (and rather humiliating to be honest).
I’ve asked one or two of her friends and gotten the answer “she playing only la” or “you must have annoyed her”.
I can get that people unintentionally annoy or anger each other, but I’m mystified as to why girls seem to think that an act of physical violence is justified and should in fact be accepted in any circumstance short of an actual physical altercation.
I’m absolutely sure this would be unacceptable if it went the other way round. Wondering if this is common / normal.
Netizens comments
- Nope, not normal… if she says it’s normal, then you do it on her and use her logic on her, I can guarantee you… it will not apply.
- No get rid of this kind of toxic bs. Physical bs if tolerated no matter how small is how SIMPS are born and moulded. Respect is in short supply in such relationships.
- I think there a few considerations that you may take up:
1. Talk with your partner about your feelings and thoughts on you feeling hurt by the actions. Choose a good time to do so. She may not realized the gravity of the situation to you.
2. If she is totally aware of her impact to you and she felt it is perfectly fine to continue her actions despite you expressing your discomfort and hurt by it, then you may need to seriously consider the following: A. Suffers silently and pray that she may stop one day but of course there is a possibility that she may never stop doing so. B. End the relationship.
Of course what you see in the comments here including mine is based on whatever little information that we have from your side of the story and from our own experiences which is not yours. You also need to see whether this behavioral tendency that you observe only applies to you, her family, or friends? To assess the relativity of the behvavior and whether it is normative.
You can also adopt an imagination exercise, would you want to live the rest of your life with her if she continues to do what she do? What if she continues this habitual tendency as a mother of your child?
I wish you all the best. And may both of you be well and happy.