I have full custody of my 12-year-old daughter.
Her mom only has one monthly visitation. Recently my daughter has been acting up and insisting on living with her mom because she thinks I’m a bad dad.
I knew she couldn’t live with her mom because her mom is a terrible mom. I know it because I’ve seen the way she treats her other kids which is why I tried so hard to get full custody. Also, my daughter is used to her very privileged life which her mom can’t give her.
A few days ago we got into an argument and again she said she hated me and wanted to live with her mom. I got angry, I made her pack a bag.
Took her to her mom’s home, left her there and told her she is gonna live here just as she wanted.
One day later I got a message from her asking me to take her home. I ignored all her messages and calls for 4 days until I figured she has learned her lesson. I answered her call and she was crying and asking me to take her home, which I did.
She has been staying in her room ever since. My family thinks I’m a bad father and should have just brought her home the first time she called but I thought it was necessary.Â
I just want her to learn a lesson in her privileged life. Am I at fault here?
Here are what netizens think:
- Wrong for not at least answering her calls and talking to her to make sure she was safe. That’s awful. She already has to live with the fact her mom is terrible, and now she probably feels she can’t trust her dad either.
- she’s just a kid. Sometimes you argue with your kids. It doesn’t justify (temporarily) kicking her out. I bet she feels abandoned.
- I understand that you were trying to make a point
- You left your child for 4 days with a woman you describe as a bad mother…