Hey everyone, so basically my ex-spouse and I split up last year. Together for about 5 years. We have a child together and have been great with co-parenting, however, my family remains oddly close with her.
They were close before, which I understand, but because they continue it hurts me deeply. I’ve reached out multiple times to communicate how this makes me feel but they usually just say what I want to hear, then continue to be close with my ex anyways.
For context, the ways they are inappropriately too close: – inviting them over for dinner, inviting them over to go swimming, having a family group chat that does not include me (there was one previously that ex was removed from, but after another was made behind my back) that has a profile picture of all of us hugging, which hurts me & my current partner to see.
While they say its to maintain peace for their grandchild, they could do this in ways that don’t hurt me.
They barely ever invite me over anymore and if they wanted that time with their grandchild, they could have tried to reach out to me instead of my ex as its 50/50 custody and they’re MY parents.
They also haven’t put in much effort into getting to know my current partner. I tried last night to reach out one last time before I remove myself from this emotional pain & mental strain and was met with one of my parents laughing at me while I had tears rolling down my face, not hearing me out and blowing it out of proportion.
I never said they had to completely cut my ex out of their lives, thats unrealistic since we have a child. I just wanted healthier boundaries that don’t cause me to feel so depressed. I was told that I am losing my mind, and now I feel completely helpless & like I’m crazy even though I think any normal person would feel this way- and to top off that feeling, now I don’t even have a family beside my child and my partner.
Until they can see my side of things, I can’t be around them any longer for my own mental health. I need to know, am I crazy?
Please, I need an outsider’s perspective.