I’ve graduated for couple years now and recently old friends started to reconnect.
Randomly initiated communication with University acquaintances has gone from “Hi, you want to go out have coffee? (Insurance)” to “Hi, can you refer me into your company?”
I find it hard to reject the request so I try to help – not really looking for a referral bonus since I may want to leave.
It got really annoying when the person demanded how she can get the job (basically asked me for a sure-win strategy to offer to her future boss) and a lot of sensitive info.
I didn’t want to reveal sensitive data so I gave vague info and the conversation went in the direction of “I still do not have a plan after talking to you”. “This convo is not helpful”.
What is the world coming to?
Why are people feeling so entitled?
Why is it that she feels it’s my job to think of a way for her to secure this job even though I haven’t seen nor talked to this person for past 10 years?
I got very tired halfway through and just agreed to whatever was being said even if it was blatantly wrong. Didn’t feel like this person is worth my time.
I ended the call by pretending I had another call (again, not good at rejecting)
How should I reject these people nicely Or let them know in a civilised manner Idm helping to refer but stop talking to me like I’m her biatch.
Thank you for all the help and inspirations in advance!