COUPLE GAN CHIONG TO GET BTO, REGRETS QUICKLY AFTER PAYING OPTION FEE

I just paid the option fee for a BTO with my boyfriend and I have been regretting ever since.

In fact, I started having panic attacks over the whole flat buying thing the night before that but didnt have the courage to not go through with it because our queue no is decent.

Part of the reason is because I am unsure if he is the one.

I was unsure since the start of the relationship but just carried on with it because it became comfortable.

I would like to know if such feelings of anxiety and strong thoughts to just forgo the option fee (I will fork it out fully) is normal, and what is the best thing to do moving forward?

Here are what netizens think:

• If you are unsure if he is the one, better to forgo the option fee and just leave him. You’d most likely regret especially after marriage and having kids. Things become more complicated.

• GG. Never get a flat just for the sake of getting one. Lol.

• Don’t get yourself trapped in the purchase of bto if he is not the right partner. You will have more regret and pain later on.

• Can I just say that no one finds the “one”. You find the 0.75 and round up. You don’t share what makes him less than perfect, so it is worth considering what this man brings to the table that led you down this path in the first place. If his mediocrity is really so unacceptable, then the obligation is with you to end it and let him go/ give yourself the chance to find “the one”.

• Yes it’s normal to be unsure and forgo the option fee. If you are regretting and anxious now you better to cancel first rather than staying that way for the next 10 years

• If u are unsure then just don’t go for it. U are making the 2 most important decisions in one go.

• is okay, after our family bought the previous house, my mum called me while i was in school in jc, and had a panic attack being anxious about how the fighter planes were noisy, and we ended up staying 14 years there. and i always laugh at her esp when we just sold the place last year and right sized. What i’m saying is, perhaps you’re more afraid of the uncertainty, and ur bf is part of that uncertainty, but it is only normal to be scared. don’t let that fear consume you. get on with your life, everything will work itself out