How do you deal with an overly needy gf?
My GF has been pestering me to be with her or game with her all the time.
We used to go on dates and game often because I was jobless.
But I found a job and she seems to still want to keep up the previous gaming lifestyle.
She keeps pestering me to game with her the entire day, making a big deal out of it if i say i am busy.
I had to resort to telling her a white lie that I am busy at work sometimes, just to catch a breather.
To put things in perspective, it is something along the line of gaming before work, gaming during my work breaks, gaming after my work till late at night, gaming the entire day during weekends, gaming with her when she is bored at her relative’s home.
She has depression, and the jobs she was in did not last long, and she is mostly a stay home person, I already do all her chores, go to work to support our living and now i am also expected to entertain her the entire day?
To make it worst, she even invaded my personal gaming space by joining my 5-man team with my kakis, thanks to that, we had to exclude one of us so that she can join my games, even had my bro bitching to me that she is causing our ranking to drop because of her low skill level. I did not tell her this because I do not want to create drama.
What do I do? Sometimes she even resort to coming over to my place during my work at home just to squeeze out every last drop of time i have left, or straight up ask me to game with her when i am offline from the meetings etc
Here are what netizens think:
- Establish boundaries. Tell her your availability and stick to it. Don’t allow unauthorised home visits and don’t eject your teammate because of her. Manage and talk.Most importantly, it was mentioned in passing but it could be the real problem: you said she had depression. it might be worth encouraging her to see a psychiatrist as that could be the root of some of the issues
- Do you think the world has only one girl to be your girlfriend? Even if so, you don’t need this girl in your life. Take care.
- Mobile legend is it? Or pubg? She have to find a job n cut gaming time. If she dont want to then u both are on different path. Talk to her