Should I marry my bf if i can’t stand his mom
I’ve been together with my bf for 5 years, we are both in our late twenties already. Recently we started discussing about settling down and getting a resale flat. I have doubts because the idea of having his mom as my MIL scares tf out of me.
His mom is a very snobbish person. Likes to think that just because she is educated she can can always make nasty remarks about other parents around her age. Once, I said hi to their neighbours and she was very unhappy about it. Told me that she doesn’t talk to them because the mom next door is “too aunty” for her. My bf mom are into high fashion, yup she’s those kind that will judge other moms based on what bags they carry. She even stopped playing mahjong with this new group of friends she made and her reason was “they speak mostly Chinese so I don’t like.” When she literally speak Chinese most of the time at home. I absolutely can’t stand her. Most of the time she treats me well so I just bear with that snobbish attitude of hers because I’ve no choice and in no position to call her out. There are a lot more snobbish remarks she made but I bet you can already imagine what kind of “atas” woman she is.
Honestly my biggest worry is that my bf mom will speak ill of my family if they were to meet one day. My parents are not as privileged growing up, they have low education and only speak Chinese and Hokkien at home. They can’t converse in English at all. My mom doesn’t carry designer bags like she does. My parents are extremely humble people. And I’m proud of my mom being the typical aunty, the ones she hate. Honestly I am mentally prepared for this day to come because I know it will. And I’m ready to go to war with this snobbish bitch if she talks shit about my family.
Should I talk to my bf? Or should I even continue this relationship? I’m afraid I will regret one day because I know I will definitely choose my family over him. I don’t want to put my bf in a difficult position.