A netizen took to Facebook to share how she is happy about the Covid restrictions, because she doesn’t need to “waste time” visiting her grandmother out of obligation.
She shared that she feels “a little guilty” but still resents her because her father is not her grandmother’s favourite son.
Here is the full story:
“My grandma is 85 years old. My grandpa has passed on a long time ago.
Unlike many other people with heartfelt stories about their grandma, my grandma is not close to me at all.
She has many grandchildren (more than 20). When i was a kid, my mom said she did not want to take care of me/my siblings but chose to take care of my other cousins. My mom had to quit her job and take care of us full time. Not sure why, but probably cause my dad was not the favourite son. It was pretty obvious that the other son was her favourite.
As i grew up, my grandma has never asked me about my school or grades or anything at all. Basically we never talked. Even when i visit her I don’t remember having any conversation with her. I would usually greet her and ask her how is she, but that’s it. She has been this way towards me and all my siblings. All these while, she took in some of my cousins and raised them (they stayed at her place on weekdays, and went back to their parent’s place on the weekends).
Writing up all the above, i feel sad. But that’s just how it is.
I got married last year, and although she was unwell, she attended my ROM. I have not seen her since then due to covid restrictions etc. To be honest, i was happy about the covid restrictions so I don’t need to waste time to visit her only just out of obligation, not even love.
My parents did visit her regularly and they mentioned she asked about me. She also gave her regards to me. This happened multiple times throughout the year. (It has never happened before).
Suddenly i feel a little guilty for not visiting her. Of course a small part of me wishes to have a loving grandma while growing up and all, but it’s too late for that. I still resent her for how she treated my family (she also did not treat my parents well).
Should i visit her (and it will just be awkward and silent) or should I just ignore this and move on with my life?”