I do not want to attend Chinese New Year gatherings because of the sake of my mental health.
I am 25(f) had a craniotomy 2 years ago. Lunar New Year is approaching and its common to have a family gathering where relatives far and near comes together..
I never liked going as I have skin problems similar to the late Michael Jackson .. because they would always ask “hows you skin” “Still no boyfriend? Owh yeah its because of your skin right.. told you to do plastic surgery”
After that no one else talks to me.
And it’s the same every year. I have done great things that they can ask, like how I managed and completed ironman and how I am getting stronger in the gym and hey I run a pretty dope home baking business. But nope they decide to make me feel that I am only “visible” because of my condition and nothing else.
They would “celebrate” my one year of craniotomy like they would remember such shyt but they cannot remember the day I won a competition as a child or me completing my PhD. They can ask what are my plans after getting my PhD and stuff but nope! My condition seems to be a hotter topic and they would repeat the same question.
Since the surgery every small or big gathering, it always been a hot topic.. they really do make me feel tht I am only seen for my skin condition and my recent surgery, everything else I have done is nothing..
Even my neurosurgeon said my Mental health is very important. I really do not feel like going as it just drowns me in my own emotions thinking that I am only seen because of that.. I feel left out, I feel sad.. but at the same time sorry if I have to turn down a family gathering.
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