My son is 13 years old, and I can tell he’s going through that age where things are changing and he’s insecure about everything. He’s confided in me in a few things and I try to be supportive and reassure him that these feelings will come to pass. I’be also been watching what I say to make sure nothing will make him feel any worse.
I’ve been keeping certain things away from my wife as my son wanted his father to know exclusively, but I have been trying to make sure my wife also watches what she says.
My wife has a bit of road rage and says some things when he drives. A thing she’s said constantly since I started dating her was that inconsiderate drivers are that way because they have small D… It’s just been a dumb harmless joke that I honestly don’t really even notice her saying.
We took a trip last weekend to see family in Malaysia and she was driving one leg of it. We got cut off by someone and she said that he only did it because of their small D. I immediately clocked this as something not okay to say so I told my wife that she shouldn’t just say that and it’s not nice. She kinda brushed it off and did it twice more in the three hours she drove.
The last time I saw that the driver was a female, so I told my wife, “no that’s a woman, her lady parts must be really loose then right?”
She immediately snapped at me and said that what I said was incredibly vulgar and borderline misogynistic. When we got to our location she pulled me aside and said that what I said was disgusting and I cannot teach our son that it’s okay to talk about women like this. I said that she did the same thing about the men.
She said it was different as we all know she does that and she’s not serious. When I say that about a woman, it’s incredibly misogynistic and our son may speak that way about women.
So now I’m thinking maybe she’s right? There is a difference in what she said and what I said and there’s a different dynamic as I’m a man talking about a woman’s privates, and it is teaching my son badly. So I could see why I would be the one at fault, but I don’t think I am.
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