Dating a divorcee man who is not treating me well
I dated a man, who has been divorced twice and is older than me by 25 years.
He has one kid from the first marriage and he has none from the second marriage. We met after one year of his second divorce and his ex-wife lives in China. She is a plastic and golddigger, always asks him for money and branded stuff even after they have separated. And many many times I encountered him still texting her and she still tried to chase after him so that he will always remember their old memory.
To me, it is painful to see as i have dated him for one year and i have been sincere.
I never talk to any guys or flirt around. And i always tell him how i feel after knowing that he and ex wife still in contact, but he would explode in anger and shout at me like i am a stray dog that disgusts him. He would make me feel like its my fault to know and want to find out.
And, every day we spend time together, he even barely looks at me or even cares about asking how my day is or whatever thing. When i tell him something, he usually just brush it off or even pretend he does not hear me at all.
I feel so invisible sometimes. Everything is just about him. He wants me to listen and follow whatever he says, he wants to shape me into someone so obedient and nice. He will be unhappy if he finds me go clubbing.
But he is free to go ktv, as he has an excuse that its just for business purpose. Even if i also know he has addiction to going ktv with all the plastic girls around him.
He would gaslight me, tell me that i should be more understanding and not insecure or trying to be controlling.
Seriously, what can i do?
I try to express how i feel, he would not care to listen. He would just get angry at me.
If i tell my friends, they would scold me because they have alr told me before to not date him.
Should i close eyes and keep forgiving, try to be more understanding and put him before my own self ?
But that would mean i will suffer in unhappiness and have to endure all the shouting and swearing words
Or should i just leave him and move on?