My 28 m bf lost his job and wants me 23 f to move in with him
Okay, to start off, here is some background information. Me 23 F and my bf 28 M have been together for 9 months. In the beginning, everything was amazing. we had similar goals as we both decided we didn’t want children, similar hobbies, and the overall chemistry was amazing. He’s very sweet and attentive.
When we first started dating, he had a job but he got fired about 2 months ago. He has been looking for a job ever since he got fired but has had no luck. He is struggling to figure out what job he wants to do now temporarily. He does want to become a tattoo artist eventually and has built up his portfolio but has not gone any further with the process. He is currently jobless, and his parents are helping him pay for his rent.
He hasn’t applied for any jobs in a few weeks and seems to be less motivated to find work. He is suffering from low self-esteem. When I go over to his house, it’s dirty, and he always talks about how he is a bum. I want to help him, but I’m not sure how. Anytime I try to help with his resume or with job searches, he gets upset, and it turns into an argument.
I am currently enrolled in school, and I live at home with my family. Me and my father constantly have fights, and it is getting to the point where living at home is affecting me mentally.
Anyways my boyfriend knows that my home life isn’t so great, and I told him I was going to look for roommates and save up money to move out this next semester. He suggested I move in with him and split the bills and help with groceries every now and then.
I’m struggling with this decision as he currently does not have a job and hasn’t applied to jobs in a few weeks, and he is relying on his parents. I’m scared when I move in I would have to pay for everything.
I told him I’d think about it but it’s a big decision to make. I’m questioning things. I know finding a job right now isn’t exactly easy, but I really don’t wanna move in with him without having some kind of stability.
I am also struggling to picture a future with him as he still does not know what he wants to do in life. I have had my life planned out. I really care about him, and I’m not sure if this means we just aren’t compatible or if this is a small hiccup I should try to work through.
If he does find a job before August I’m not sure if I would still want to continue this relationship as the job is a temporary fix and he’s still figuring out what he wants in life.