So I’m thinking of getting myself an adult toy.

I’m a V, never really fingered myself (typing these things feels so taboo right now) but I want to start having fun with myself, to like, practise for the real thing, I guess.

I have looked up the type of lube I want to use, and now I’m onto looking at penetrative toys…. but they’re all really long and really thick.

I’m too scared to start with a really thick, long one. I know it will be painful and won’t fit, I’m really super terrified of getting hurt or hurting myself.

Can any of you ladies recommend me a small, thin toy that is safe and not hurtful for beginners?

Netizens comments

1. whatever you do, don’t force it! i bought one without doing much research and it didn’t fit.
   i was so frustrated. then i looked it up and there were suggestions to relax, take your time, and don’t force it. after a couple days it went in fine.
2. make sure to look at the dimensions for girth. If it is longer than you want/need, you don’t have to use all of the insertable length, but if it’s too wide then you can’t do much about that.
   Look at the material too, since many toys (often ones that are really cheap) are not body safe.
3. Don’t make yourself crazy about “getting ready” for the first time. Explore yourself and find out what feels good where. Also don’t set a high bar for yourself.

My daughter “Jane” 16y.o has about $2800 in savings. She got the money from saving up the allowance, running errands, and selling homemade jewelry. She treasures her money a lot.

Yesterday, my son Jon (M10) told me that Jane paid her friend to tear up his painting. He loves art and has been working on a painting of a winter landscape. The worst thing is that the painting was supposed to be for Jane (for her Christmas present).

He was so upset, and obviously, I was furious. I demanded an explanation from Jane, and she said “It was supposed to be for a reaction video…” I told her I didn’t care, it was a horrible thing to do. She argued again and again that it was just for fun. Jon said it wasn’t funny and was visibly hurt.

Eventually, Jane gave a half-hearted apology. I told her that she wasn’t sorry, the apology meant nothing. So, as a punishment – I told her I was going to take away all her money until I felt she deserved it again. I would also never give her allowance again.

She looked stunned and started getting hysterical. She said that was her hard-earned money, she worked for it so hard and now I was taking it away. “All for a silly thing!” was what Jane said. She started crying that she was going shopping with her friends next weekend, and now she would have no money. She stormed out tearfully and locked herself in her bedroom.

Jon agreed with what I did, but he said I should give it back to her when she apologises properly. I feel it’s too lenient. He’s already ready to paint another landscape for her if she apologizes.

My husband is totally horrified with my decision and said it was unfair to Jane. He said I should just ground her for a month. He thinks I’m being an A-Hole (and of course so does Jane). So is my punishment too harsh?

Here is what netizens thinks:

• Withholding her allowance until you’re able to pay the damages out of it if she won’t step up and do it herself is entirely reasonable. Seizing money she’s earned without any involvement from you is not.

• Tearing his painting in front of him to capture his reaction is downright mean. But your reaction was out of line. The punishment didn’t suit the crime. Confiscating her money for an unknown amount of time is outright preposterous. She needs it and it’s hers.

• It’s not about the punishment fitting the crime. It’s about the punishment getting through to the child that committed the crime.

My wife wants to divorce me because I have prostate cancer.

I got diagnosed with prostate cancer recently. It’s a life-changing period in my life not because of my diagnosis but also because my wife is leaving me….

she said she can’t do it, she can’t take all this stress and anxiety my condition has caused her so far. This was a more devastating shock to me than my cancer diagnosis.

I don’t understand why she’s wanting to end things between us. I cried, begged, offered her space if she wanted but nothing changed her mind. I don’t understand because we were happy and now she’s walking out on me.

I’ve just started my first round of treatment and it’s torturing both physically and emotionally I don’t want to continue.

I get so weak and feel like I’ve already lost so much. She moved out days ago and although my sister moved in, I’m feeling incredibly lonely and heartbroken.

I need her here but she walked out so easily. Just like that, hasn’t even called to check in on me and I’m about to lose my mind blaming myself and my condition.

I keep considering stopping treatment but if I could, I’d die right now because I love her and can’t handle her absence even when she’s wronged me, I’d still take her back if she wants but she doesn’t. I feel numb.

My husband spent almost $500 on Onlyfans and custom content from random women.

I (f25) saw some questionable charges on my husbands (m29) credit card and when I asked him about it he pretended he had no idea what I was talking about and that it must be fraud.

Okay I won’t argue. He has a history of making impulsive purchase so I expected I would have to investigate myself.

I logged into his email and looked at the emails from the same day of the purchases and saw a bunch of PayPal transactions.

Long story short I was able to trace it to only fans subscriptions, custom content purchases and saw he was sending money to random women for god knows what.

In the span of a month and a half he’s spent almost $500 of OUR MONEY on this shit. My birthday was two weeks ago and he said he was low on money but would take me out next time he got paid.

Now I know why. I haven’t confronted him yet bc idk what to do. I feel completely disrespected, disappointed and angry and I know that I can’t talk to him right now when I’m so worked up.

Also I’ve been trying to be more adventurous sexually and feel like we’ve been great lately so this just feels like such a slap in the face and like I’ll never be enough.

I’m so angry and I have no one else to talk to about this bc it’s so embarrassing. I don’t know what my next step is going to be. I don’t deserve this.

This time last year I had 30k in my bank account.

Today, I have a nice $500 and just recently had to move back in with my parents, phone gets cut off in 2 days if I don’t pay the bill that hasn’t been paid in months, which if I do I’ll have an even nicer $200 to my name.

But hey, on the bright side I start a new job tomorrow that is close to my parents house, going to be able to pay off $1700 in CC debt and unpaid bills and slowly get my shit (once great) life back on track.

I don’t want to be a burden to my family any longer than I have to be so I’m hoping I can be back in a place of my own in a few months. But this time I’ll take life seriously.

Edit:

I ended up quitting my job because of crap management, thought I could have easily found another one cause of my qualifications but fast forward to today I guess I thought wrong.

Drank alcohol and ate out everyday, buying stupid sht. I learned from it and won’t ever do that again. It’s a blessing my parents let me come back home while I get my shit together.

Netizens’ comments

1. Lesson to all. Don’t quit your job unless you have another lined up that’s pays equal or more.
2. I lost a TON of money trying to get rich quick. Never doing that again. Saving my money and not doing any schemes this time
3. Whatever happened to you this year, stinks. I hope next year is better for you. On the bright side – you have your parents who are letting you move in with them. You won’t be homeless. So I hope you appreciate that. And I hope it means they love you very very much !
4. It’s rough times right now with inflation and so many other financial issues but if you were able to save $30k in the past you should be able to do it again even better after you get back on your feet.

Wah, this Malaysian friend of mine, his story really make me shake head sia. He came to Singapore at 23 years old, fresh from uni, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed. Starting salary? Only $2,200 a month — not much but enough to survive lah. But this guy, steady steady work hard, no complain, always overtime, always show boss he “can do”. Slowly, salary naik naik — 5 years later kena $4,000, then $5,500, now at 45, he pulling $7,000 a month. Wah, respect lah.

CPF interest and lump sum payout after cancel PR

But hor, what really got me boiling is this: He’s Malaysian but got Singapore PR. So every month, both him and his company shiok shiok put money into CPF. CPF contributions can be killer sia, but he tahan because he knows later got bonus — interest and lump sum payout after cancel PR.

Here’s the kicker: He plan to work ONLY till 45 years old, then he going to cancel his Singapore PR. Yes, cancel PR! After 22 years working here, he just say, “Okay lah, done enough liao.” Then he claim back ALL his CPF money — entire lump sum, with interest included. That’s like getting free money from Singapore government because he was contributing all these years.

Imagine this: work damn hard, earn more than most locals also, then after only 22 years, say bye bye to PR, cash out CPF, and go back Malaysia to enjoy life. No need to wait until 62 or 65 like normal people suffer. Early retire, chill with family, travel, and spend money how he wants.

What really grind my gears is how Singapore government give so much chance to foreigners like him, but later when he cancel PR, all this CPF money flies out of the country! Meanwhile some locals suffer under heavy taxes, CPF not enough, and must work until old also. Some people born here, no chance for early retire leh.

Meanwhile many Singaporeans work their whole lives but never got this kind of lucky break.

And this uncle? Every year salary increase steady like clockwork, but also means his CPF contributions more and more. He get to multiply money inside CPF pot, while many Singaporeans still kena squeeze. Then after all these years, he just pull out money and disappear, no longer contribute to our economy or pay taxes.

Then hor, after cancel PR, he still can come back Singapore to visit, buy property also can (depending on rules lah), but CPF money all gone. So the country subsidised him big time, only to get nothing in return. This kind of “take then run” mentality really make local workers mad lah.

The whole story damn infuriating because it shows the loophole — how foreigners with PR status can benefit from CPF system, work here, earn good money, then just cancel PR and cash out CPF early. Meanwhile many Singaporeans work their whole lives but never got this kind of lucky break.

But what can do? This uncle friend say he just playing the system smartly, nothing wrong. He say better plan early and retire young than later struggling. True lah, but at what cost to the country and local workers?

Moral of the story: Malaysia PR earn triple salary here, enjoy CPF benefits, then cancel PR and leave with CPF pot in hand. Singapore lose out, locals frustrated, system get abused. Sian lah, how to balance fairness when CPF become carrot for foreign talents but at the same time drain national savings?

You tell me, how not angry this kind of story?

After days of round-the-clock restoration works, Tanjong Katong Road South — previously affected by a major sinkhole — will finally reopen to traffic in stages starting this weekend. The announcement came via a Facebook post by Minister for Sustainability and the Environment, Grace Fu, who praised the efforts of multiple government agencies in making the road safe again.

The stretch from East Coast Parkway (ECP) to Mountbatten Road will be open to motorists from Saturday, 2 August at 12:00 pm, while the opposite direction (Mountbatten Road to ECP) will reopen on Monday, 4 August at 5:00 am.

Extensive Tests Conducted to Ensure Public Safety

Over the past week, agencies including PUB, the Land Transport Authority (LTA), and the Building and Construction Authority (BCA) have been conducting rigorous ground scans, stability assessments, and safety tests. According to Grace Fu, these tests have confirmed that the road is now safe for public use.

“The safety of our residents and motorists was our top priority,” said the minister, noting that the successful reopening is thanks to strong inter-agency coordination and the support of the public.

Underground Utility Works Still Ongoing

While traffic will resume, some restoration work on underground utilities will continue in the surrounding area. Authorities have reassured the public that these works will be managed carefully to minimise disruption. Commuters are advised to remain alert and follow traffic signs in the vicinity as works wrap up fully.

Public Praise for Workers Behind the Scenes

The public has responded positively to the news, with many expressing gratitude to the frontline workers and agencies involved. Comments poured in on the minister’s post, praising the fast and efficient response.

“Thanks to all the workers, especially the foreign workers out there working tirelessly,” wrote one Facebook user. Another added, “Great teamwork across agencies. You all deserve a big salute!”

This restoration follows a recent sinkhole incident that sparked concerns over road infrastructure and public safety. Fortunately, no injuries were reported, and the area was quickly cordoned off to prevent accidents.

Motorists Encouraged to Plan Ahead

As the area transitions back to full accessibility, drivers are encouraged to plan their routes ahead of time and remain patient during the final stages of reinstatement. Traffic police and LTA personnel may be on-site to assist with traffic flow.

The Tanjong Katong incident is a stark reminder of Singapore’s need for continuous infrastructure vigilance — and a testament to how effective cross-agency collaboration can swiftly restore order.