My daughter is 22 and she wants to move out soon. She is planning on moving out with her best friend. It doesn’t make much sense economically.

My daughter doesn’t have a high salary and the way things are going if she moves out she will take years to save up for down payment. She wants to buy a home and living with us she can save a lot of money.

Another factor Is that her best friend has a boyfriend and I have heard her best friend talking about moving in with him. So it could also be a situation where my daughter will have to find a new roommate after a year. It doesn’t make sense at all.

We were talking about moving and she asked me what I thought of it. I told her that it didn’t make sense financially if she wanted to move out and she will have to delay buying a house. I also mentioned that she could have to find a new roommate if her friend got serious with her boyfriend.

She got upset and irritated. She said she would deal with it and she ended the conversation quickly.

My husband thinks we should just let her make her own decisions and mistakes.

Here are what netizens think:

Your daughter has an opportunity here to spread her wings and experience some independence. You are falling for entirely natural parental instincts to shield your child from any possible negative that might happen.

What I’m seeing here is a sort of struggle toward maturity. Mature enough to want to move out but still wants approval from parents for what she does–to the extent of getting unreasonable when it’s not forthcoming. Possibly moving out after being advised not to will help her become her own person. We can hope.

When I get asked for advice by my adult daughters, I generally always start with, “Well, it’s your decision and I will support you no matter what you decide.” Then I give them the pros and cons as I see them. 

“This dude I met on a random website looking for friends, he is 21. And I saw that he used to text at 1+am, 2+am, 3+am, and 4+am. He also texted at 10+am, 12+pm, 4+pm, 6+pm and also 10+pm. He is still like this after half a year. And he is ultra-thin, but not anorexic, just quite thin, and very tall. He looks very youthful and very healthy. And also incredibly handsome.

But, like, is there something amiss? Are 21-year-old guys all like that? When I was that young, I think I also never sleep until like 3 am but only for a short time before I became looking anorexic, unhealthy, pale and disastrous. Is he ok? Is this normal? I understand that guys don’t need to sleep but like I’ve never really known they are 24hours alive type until now. What could possibly be happening? Does he sleep at 1 am on Monday, 2 am on Tuesday, 3 am on Wednesday and 4 am on Thursday?

Should I be kaypoh and ask him about it. Why? Is he going to you know, peg out? Is he facing some problems? Is it normal?

And, is he trying to prove a point to me that he is nonchalant and he doesn’t sleep, all around the clock? Like he must reply to me exactly after one and a half-day. It used to be like that half a year ago as well, but his math is always correct. Exactly 1.5 days in the wee hours of the morning? What does it mean? Should I ask him?”

Here are what netizens think:

Guys no need sleep, they only need ***

We operate by shifts. Usually I take the night time and hand over the account after 6am.

He is busy flirting u please don’t kacau.If you really like to kacau, make sure you can be vibrant brilliant jovial for every single millisecond of your life because this person is used to getting high and happy all the times if you show a little sign of insecurity and getting sulky,he will ditch you and get high again:)

You didn’t sleep that’s why you could stalk himBUT… maybe he does sleep in the day like 3am to 8am, and nap

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I was a Malaysian tourist in Singapore.

I apologize if I sound exaggerated, but we hopped on this one grab car and this Chinese driver shouted at us when we got into the car because we don’t know how do we get to the backseat.

We are silent for the rest of the ride because we don’t want to break any laws as tourists (this is our first time overseas).

After we arrive to the destination, I accidentally left my hat there so I had to embarrass myself to ask her nicely to wait to pickup my hat and she shouted something that I don’t understand (it’s like mumbling) so I had to give up my hat.

Is this treatment normal in Singapore? Why can’t we just be nice towards each other?

Edit: I travel with my family, hence the word ‘we’ used in this question

Edit 2: thank you guys for the support and replies! I will look into doing it.

Netizens’ comments

1. Report in your grab app. That’s not normal and these type of behaviour should not be condoned.
2. It is not normal at all and I’m so sorry you had to experience that 🙁 please don’t blame yourself for anything, you did nothing wrong!
3. 1* that driver, this type of driver don’t deserve to work in customer service line.
4. The driver is an a-hole and it’s not specifically against you because you’re a Malaysian or a tourist, I am sure that she has done this to many others before.
   Like what the others said, report her on the grab app.
   Hope you enjoy the rest of your time here, do ask us for recommendations if you want to.
5. Singaporean are stressed everyday. Haha. I apologized on her behalf. Please enjoy your stay here and don’t that the experience ruin your trip.

I’m 36 and my Ex-husband M37 divorced me after I got diagnosed with cancer. He made it all about him then blamed me for our marriage failing. Got married to a 23-year-old woman who calls me by mocking nicknames

I try to have a good co-parenting relationship, I have a 16-year-old son who lives in both homes.

His 16th birthday was days ago, I bought him a console and sent it to his dad’s house in advance since I was out of town and couldn’t attend the birthday celebration.

2 days later, one day before the birthday, My ex-husband called saying he opened the gift I got for our son, used it and broke it. I was in dismay when he told me and I started arguing with him about paying for it to replace it but he started pleading saying he has no money and asked that I either send another gift (didn’t have to be a console) or just tell our son I didn’t send him a gift.

I told him no way I was going to lie to my son but he kept begging saying he’ll pay me back once he’s able. I ended the call with him then immediately called my son to let him know what his father did to his birthday gift. A huge fight ensued and my ex-husband called me yelling saying I not only ruined our son’s birthday celebration but ruined his relationship with him over a stupid console that he was going to pay for but I was being spiteful trying to one-up him.

My son went to stay at my place with my current husband and hasn’t been speaking to his dad. His dad is blaming me because our son refused to stay and celebrate his birthday thereafter finding out what his dad did.

My ex-husband’s wife berated me in a long text talking about how I caused a scene and used my son as a tool to get back at his daf when I could’ve worked things out like a “mature adult”.

She said she “doesn’t get me” and that there’s something wrong with my personality. she even claimed she would be a better, more mature mom than me and never involve her kids in her fights with her partner.

I was upset by her lecture and felt maybe I mishandled the situation and made a hasty decision.