Dating rant.

I just went out on the first date with a guy i chatted with online. I thought he was smart and cool and decent looking on his profile. Even as we were texting I thought I like this guy’s personality at first. Since he called himself a male soprano, I suggested let’s sing Karaoke. so we travelled to meet in the middle.

When I saw him in person, I thought he was too fat and ugly and I wanted to bail! but since we came all the way down to meet I told myself I’ll be nice and gracious. At best I’ll treat this person like a friend instead of BF. Later when he sang the high notes, …he couldn’t reach them! Liar! Anyway we had fun singing away and I still needed a massage.

Then later on we went to get aime at Natureland. Earlier via text he said it was his treat. But since I made the reservation, I made the payment first. However I realised that while I was making payment, he didn’t raise the idea of paying back the bill. I was getting a bit queasy already.

Then as we parted ways to go home, he said he would pay me back to which I said ok. But nope, when I got home, I didn’t receive anything. Except for a text that he’s home. He wasn’t fully accountable to his words. Then he texted a few more times and I didn’t text him all day and I realised that he had CLEARLY NO INTENTIONS of treating me. So I thought it was very low of him. Then when I texted him about the bill about 10min after receiving a text from him, he pretended he did not see my messages and said he had crashed by then but I knew he was online. I caught his bull shit!! Hahahaha!!! So funny.

I love this typical feign-ignorance-then-put-up-an-excuse “sorry I’ve crashed” behaviour. Very mature indeed.

Not only was he deceptive, a liar, ugly and full of bs, he was insincere and immature too. Thank goodness it’s just tens of dollars. He could’ve scammed me for life! Hahaha.

Lesson learnt:

It’s wrong of this guy to post some old outdated photos and mislead me….

It’s also wrong of me to pretend I like him in the first place. I should’ve called out the misleading pics in the first place so things wouldn’t have gone downhill. I am glad I paid for this good lesson. I hope y’all learn from my lesson too! It’s worth every penny!

I realised two wrongs don’t make anything right.

To the ladies out there: he may look good on paper but then see what he’s like in real life also.

To the guys out there:

If I like your character and the convo via text and I like your IG profile, great. We can meet once. After the first date, if you’re fake then nope, you’re not allowed to see me another time.

I’m currently in my early to mid 30s, my earning above $100k P.A., paid in cash for my house renovation by myself around $300k and able to clear my full loan mortgage any time soon if i wanted to.

I did not go for high-end brandings and instead wearing Uniqlo, Giordano, Bata and etc those berms with sandles like an average Joe without any watch (I don’t owned any watch more than $250) unless special occasion requires proper dressed up.

But I’m a foodie for sure, mainly checking out the box of awesome hawker meals around the island with occasional dine in at restaurant / fine dining (Probably 1 to 2 months once).

From other people point of view (What I Heard and Observed, which I may be wrong, but based on what i feel), I seems to be very outgoing as i do quite a numbers of sports like badminton, basketball, table tennis, tennis, pickle ball, golf (social purposes only), swimming, cycling, dancing and etc with some winning prizes in competition.

Travelling and exploring around the world sounds fun, but from my past few experience, 8/10 will be either stopping the car road side / find nearby cafe to spam my work / resolving work issue. Which affect the whole trip originally planned for. So i rather sponsor my parent and brother to travel instead with me tagging along.

To be honest, I’m actually an introvert / Otaku who likes to potato couch at home either playing games or movie (My house got a few dedicated entertainment zone to accommodate Sing K / Cinema room, VR Room, Racing Simulator, Gaming and Boardgame Room).

I can survive few months shut in at home without the need to talk to people and of course doing some adventure cooking with my wild tastebuds, special thanks to some anime (Sometimes may go major toilet break, so far no hospital incident yet), CB period is my most enjoyable period, although work is tough but not as busy, which means more time to myself.

So, enough with quick intro above.

Back the the question is, do I still need to chiong for work / career and acquire more assets which no one to pass down / inherit?

Option A: Live off my current savings and passive income investment and tone down in work / career in exchange for more time to myself?

Option B: Acquire a second property with the savings and investment i have and rent it out for a monthly passive income, doing that requires me to continue working for like another 10 years to settle the 2nd property.

Option C: Kindly suggest me something that’s not donating / temporary put / give or any other relatable act.

Your useful suggestion will be a great reference.

Those with sarcastic Option will be read with mindless smile.

Thank you for your time.

Bull-S man

Just a story to share:

We have known this friend for years. All along, we knew that he ran his own business and was a very spendthrift person, which led to him owing a lot of debtors it was because he and his wife overspent when he approached us to lend him some money. We would apologize and explain that our cash flow was tight, so we couldn’t lend him more than a few hundred dollars. However, he wanted to borrow an amount of 10k or above. As we know he won’t pay back money give excuses or act blur forgot.

This friend, has a peculiar character. Every night, he wanders around kopitiam, bragging about how he earns money, even teaching us how to manipulate women for financial gain and then ghosting them.

He flaunts by driving a Mercedes and his wife drives an Audi, but deep down we all know he is bankrupt. We getting so sick and tired hearing his bluff.

Here are what netizens think:

• Am fine example of branded goods throughout but no yusof ishak in pockets.

• Focus on building your life and stay away from him. Can watch him from afar and observe how long he can continue this facade of his.

• We all need to have a hashtag for this kind of people.

• This kind of people have inferior complex, skali his mercedes is actually a proton saga in disguise. LOL

• The best way to deal with this kind of people is stay away from them.

• Alot of people like this, I know one guy who opened a pub at Boat Quay end up he just want a quick flip and scam his own friends money.

Career crossroads. Thanks admin for approving. I need to add additional details (sorry I forgot), as I’m really being swayed left by friends, right by family everyday. Hence, seeking opinions from folks like yourselves to really get an idea of whether I’m doing to right thing. Thank you all, and admin for posting this!

Earlier post read:

“Hi, in my mid 30s. Been working for a small company the past 4 years and paid decent ($135k pa). Working hours are great and don’t have much stress or pressure. Bosses are ok, no need work on weekends and pretty much chill for all holidays (get to take leave for long leave etc). In an ideal world, this sounds like a perfect job. But tbh I really have no challenge at work, everyday is just BAU and mundane tasks. Also, I don’t think can get promotion/salary raise anytime soon. Don’t exactly dread coming to work because things and task are easy to complete.

Should I jump ship and take a paycut for a new role (not much experience) or just stay being comfortable at where I am at the moment till…. Don’t know when”

To add:

I’m not married and no kids – don’t plan to have one as well. Currently in long term relationship and have a fiancé. Fiancé wants me to get out of this job as this is not a job with long term prospects. It is true, easily stagnated due to the mundane tasks. I can probably rise up and earn $150k pa max, in the next 10-15 years.

Other considerations. I haven’t bought a property and about to buy a resale with fiancé. Also haven’t get married. So there’ll be mortgage, wedding, reno payments all ahead of us. My fiancé also feels that even at the peak of my current job, earning $150k pa (say.. in my mid 40s) is not enough to survive comfortably in sg. She’s earning about $90k pa as she’s 6 years younger, but has a better career path/projection and will probably hit an higher wage package earlier than me at my current age.

At this point it’s really money/career/time. I don’t deny $150k is fairly comfortable and I should count my blessings. So do I want to give that up and move to another job for better career prospects and sacrifice the money or just stay and do my 9-5, go home enjoy life?

I will love you either way.

Earlier this year, I broke up with my girlfriend of 7 years. 7 years of memories, through laughter and tears, through NS and Covid, we still weren’t able to make it till the end because of my mistake. A moment of folly, cost me someone who truly loved me for who I am.

She cried, she begged me to stay, took her patience for granted, until she finally decide to leave, until then I woke up, and she’s no longer coming back. My pride and my ego, cost my relationship. Someone who was ready to settle down with me, someone who always had my back, someone who’s been through everything with me. I thought I was ready to move on without her because I was the one who chose to end things anyways. Guilt, is something I thought I could live with, until I realize, it consumes you whole. It makes you think about the thing’s that could have ended in a better way. I’ve been living in guilt since then, even when everyone else is telling me to move on, I couldn’t. I tried to forget her, forget us. I tried. Today, she’s getting married. The day where we spoke about, where tons of promises were made, too bad the one standing at the end waiting for her couldn’t be me anymore. I wish her true happiness with whoever she decides to be with, and may their love for each other conquers it all. Forget about us, and be happy. That’s all that matters.

I know you won’t be able to see this, however, your happiness rise above mine. Thank you for being a part of my youth, witnessing my growth. I am sorry for everything I’ve put you through, even when you cried and begged, I left. I am in no position to request for anything, I only wish that you’ll finally achieve happiness. No more tears. I will always love you. Take care A, goodnight world.

Stingy New Husband

2 years ago, I’ve remarried. Had new baby, and 3 school-going kids from previous marriage. I must say that I was quite independant after my 1st divorce, owning and fully paying for my own 5 room HDB. I even get full custody for the kids.

My current husband is earning more than me (more than $6k a mth). He doesnt have kids from previous marriage so it was his 1st with me. He loves his daughter ALOT, but he was SUPER STINGY. By saying super stingy, I mean, he does not:

– provide money for our groceries weekly

– never pay for our family meals if we were to go out together

– always expect me to pay for meals whenever we order in

– only gave $100 mthly for utilities, thats all

– does not fork out anything extra for e.g maid

– we own a car so he wants us to 50% the loan

– expect me to fully pay for the petrol

I’ve ever brought the topic up. But we always ended up fighting cos he told me that those staying in the house, most were MY KIDS and not his. Thus its fair that I pay, not him.

Recently, I changed job due to post pregnancy stress. I took a $2k paycut. Tried explaining to him to help out with the monthly utilities as I am struggling doing so alone, but got brutally scolded by him instead. I ended up having alot of credit card loans cos whenever i don’t have enough, I am too afraid to voice out to him. Did not tell him about this, cos he will be mad if he knows that I’ve even used the baby bonus money meant for our baby.

I didn’t know he can be so mean and stingy, I really didn’t expect this from him. He had alot of savings (6 digits). All he cares about is making and saving money, nothing else… I developed anxiety and panic attacks thinking about this sometimes.

I never thought of divorce as I hate the process and going thru the agony again. And I am afraid I wont get to see my baby again, cos he ever told me that he will take her with him should we seek separation.. sometimes, I think about dying as it will be the best option for now…

I am super tired of all this.. really tired…

A netizen shared a story about a spooky figure that he saw while walking alone at Sungei Api Api in the dead of the night.

Here is the story

Somewhere after Sungei Api Api bridge at Pasir Ris. A friend and I were at a chalet and we had this brilliant idea to head inside the park to find a bicycle rental shop. This was already past 11pm but we were so adamant that the shop was still open.

I remember that our spirits were high and we even joked and talked while we made our way there. There was nothing unusual while we were walking from our chalet to the bridge. After crossing the bridge, we had to walk on this curvy path and there were a few park benches along it.

Again, there was nothing unusual up until we were about halfway on the path. We noticed that there was a dark figure sitting on one of the park benches about 10m ahead of us. It was this human-like figure sitting straight up and just facing the beach.

To make things worse, the bench was positioned in such a way that we would have to walk right in front of it if we wanted to make our way to the bicycle shop.

Me and my friend were a little uneasy, and we realized that the area had suddenly gone quiet. No crickets, no wind, no sound at all.

Both of us felt a little creeped out but we decided to keep walking forward without acknowledging the presence.

I remembered my heart beating very fast as we walked past it but mustered up the courage to glance at the figure. Shit you not, I couldn’t make out what it was. My brain couldn’t comprehend what I saw. I could only make out it’s limbs and a large volume of dirty and unkempt hair. I tried hard to discern a face but I really couldn’t.

Note that there was a park lamp post not too far away from the bench but even with the light from it I couldn’t make out its face. I quickly fixed my eyes onto the floor and focused only on getting to the end of the path.

When we reached the end of the path, my friend and I were sweating buckets and even he exclaimed he asked wtf did we just encountered.

Then we both had a fever the next day.

A netizen shared how his colleague has been calling him names and so he slept with the girl that he likes as revenge.

Here is the story

Back story: About 5 and a half months ago I got a new job and joined a new company. Well after the first week at my job one of my coworkers, same level as me just different department, started calling me gay.

He would say in a mocking manner. He would say it when I was with clients, he would say it in front of my coworkers, my subordinates, my boss, etc… I told people I wanted it to stop but everyone just thought it was funny and they started calling me it as well.

It go to a point where they would address me by it. Let’s say my name is John, well they would call me “Gay John”. I would show up to social events outside of work and be greeted as “Gay John”. I told them to stop, I tried playing along, I tried ignoring it, but It didn’t stop.

I am not gay. I am in-shape, clean, dress well, have excellent posture, and attractive. Apparently those are the reasons they call me gay…

A month ago a new girl joins our team. He takes interest in her immediately. Tells us he’s in love with her, that she’s the first girl he’s had feelings for in a long time, that he could see himself spending the rest of his life with her. He spends his work day talking and flirting with her constantly.

Well about a week in to that, I match with her on bumble. So I decided to approach her at work. We chat, exchange numbers, and within three days I’m sleeping with her.

We’ve gotten intimate a dozen times, she texts me and flirts with me at work. Well he is now suspicious and has questioned her numerous times about it (all of which she’s denied). She knows I’m sleeping with her to get back at him and she’s ok with it. (She’s also fun to hangout with so it’s not ALL about revenge)

By god it feels so good. I get to watch his sad face every time she glances at me and talks to me. I can see the frustration building up inside him when she’s now giving me more attention than she gives him.

He can call me gay all he wants, but a gay man wouldn’t be banging the girl of his dreams. I hated my job but now go to work every day with a smile, knowing I’m making his day worse.

For reference I have no issue with gay people. I just don’t care for people who go out of their way to make others’ miserable for no reason.

A netizen shared how he kicked his sister, who had just given birth, out of his home because she tried to take his sons’ room.

Here is the story:

“My sister’s not going through a good time right now. She had my niece Mia just 5 weeks ago and then she found out her boyfriend’s been cheating on her the whole time and even knocked up the other chick. She left their place with Mia and she asked me if they could stay with us a few days.

My place is pretty small so only place I could offer is the living room. I have twin boys (6) and they share their room.

My sister wanted their room but I told her that’s their own space. I offered mine but she thought it would be better to have theirs because it’s a lot bigger and she needs where to put the baby’s things like the bassinet, changing table and all that’s stuff. First week we kept arguing about that.

Then when I got home yesterday my son Noah was crying because he said his auntie took all their stuff from the room. Their toy chest, some drawers were moved into the hallway. She was trying to fit them into my room. I got so mad I made her put. everything back

I really wanted to help my sister with her dealing with so much already but making one of my kid’s cry and trying to take their room was enough for me. She was told to leave. Issue is she has nowhere to stay with a newborn baby.

She had to go back and live with our parents and she hasn’t stopped telling me I’m a terrible brother adding more issues to her life and my niece’s.

My sister says it wasn’t a big deal that she and her daughter have their own space in my place. Now she says because of my reaction I’ve made her life harder.”

Editor’s note: I mean she did say that she was only going to stay for a few days and you did offer your room, she was clearly trying to stay longer than she implied. Either way, it’s a lose-lose situation.